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Gender is a societal construct. It enables people to assign a particular set of characteristics and attributes to a person based on their biological makeup. Many people think gender is biological. But it is simply not. There are people who are born as female biologically but they identify with the male gender. They begin to experience gender dysphoria at some point in time.

Those who experience gender dysphoria get abrupt mood swings; they get anxious for no visible reason at all. Life becomes very difficult for them as they are unable to fathom the source of their unhappiness. They are often diagnosed with mental illnesses and put on medication.

It is only when they realize that the source of all their agony is their biological gender which is different from the gender, they mentally identify with that they start considering some action to live the life they have always wanted to live.

Not all of them take the path of surgery to transition from female to male. Some try to change their look and appearance by dressing and overall behaviour. Irrespective of their biological makeup, they come out as a man in front of society.

But many choose to medically transition from a female to a male. A medical transition increases their chances of passing off as a male in society by multiple times. It also makes them somewhat less vulnerable to societal discrimination and abuse as they develop the outward manifestations of the gender they mentally identify with.

Gender Reassignment Surgery enables this transformation from female to male. There are many components of this surgery. There is the Mastectomy or top surgery that is typically the first surgical procedure performed on somebody who wants to transition from female to male. Many people opt just for Mastectomy and escape other procedures altogether.

Mastectomy helps in getting rid of the unwanted breast tissue and gives your chest that flat, manly appearance. There are a number of techniques involved in this procedure. Depending on your body structure and the results that you are looking at, a combination of these techniques may be utilized.

Then, there is the bottom surgery known as RFF Phalloplasty. In this surgery, the skin and veins from the forearm are used to construct a male phallus. There is another technique known as ALT Phalloplasty that can also be used to create a male penis. This technique utilizes skin and vein from the thighs instead to construct a male phallus.

Then there are other procedures also which a person transitioning from female to male might choose to undertake. There is Facial Masculinization Surgery and there is Body Masculinization Surgery.




Facial Masculinization Surgery has a set of procedures that can be used to give a more manly and chiseled appearance to the face. Body Masculinization Surgery is ideal for those who want to transform their body type to a more masculine type. It is a kind of liposuction technique that reduces a feminine hourglass figure and creates a masculine physique. This procedure can get you quite close to the ideal male figure that includes broad shoulders, trim waist and very less body fat in the lower body.

The medical procedure is just a part of transitioning. Transitioning from female to male is a complex process that has a social and psychological angle to it. You have to totally transform your identity in front of society. And for that, you have to mentally very strong, confident and be proud of your new identity.

There are a couple of tips you can follow in order to make your journey from female to male easier and less hassle-free.



Be Proud of Your Identity

You have to accept yourself before other start accepting you as a man. Societal discrimination and apathy are a part and parcel of transitioning. Do not let that intimidate you. You have to tell yourself that it’s perfectly normal to identity with a gender that is different from the one assigned to you at birth time.

Once you are comfortable with your identity, it’s important to go even a step ahead and celebrate it. Remember that you are unique and different. And it’s the habit of society to criticize everything that is unique and out of the box. But once they realize how valuable that thing is, they get crazy about it. That’s the way society works. So, once you start becoming proud of your identity and begin to revel in it, societal apathy will mean nothing to you.

People who are trying to make you conscious will shut up because you are not getting conscious! Accepting yourself is the first step in your journey of transition from female to male.



Begin Your Transformation by Coming Out

People in your immediate circle need some time to get used to the male you. Your new life as a male might be unexpected for your friends and family, even if they support your decision. So, start by coming out as soon as you can. Take folks who are close to you into confidence. Tell them clearly about your newfound identity and the life you are going to live from now on.

This might be difficult because you might have a family that has issues with your identity. You are probably scared that they will not accept this. Well, you have to learn to be a bit tough here. It’s your life and your choice. You can try and convince your family for sure but you have to be willing to go solo. For someone who has a woman’s body biologically, declaring that from now on, they are going to live and behave like a man in front of their family is not going to immediately get them the understanding they deserve.

Your family might be even hostile to you when you come out in the open. So be prepared for anything. It is very important to have a set of people who genuinely support you and your identity. These people will become a bridge between you and society. They can be your friends, relatives, family members, anyone.

But it’s important to come out in the open with your identity because even after your transformation, your friends and family will take time to get used to the new you. Social acceptance will be a slow process. You have to just keep going on. Do not be disheartened by temporary troubles or roadblocks. As long as you are consistently embracing your new life as a male, it’s all good.



Start Dressing and Behaving Like a Guy

This is a very important component of your transitioning. Even if you are mentally prepared to undergo a transition and have come out in the open, it can be very difficult to discard those old mannerisms you have been so used to.

You feel like a guy. You know it in your heart that you are a man. But if you continue to dress in women’s clothes, people around you would obviously not accept your masculinity. So, it is important to change your outward appearance too.

Begin to dress in men’s clothes. Start observing the behaviour of guys around you. Pay attention to their facial expressions, body language, the way they walk. These little cues will help you learn how to project a masculine image.

The internet too can give you a lot of information on how to incorporate masculinity in your day-to-day behaviour. For buying men’s clothing, check out what other guys on the street are wearing. And then pick clothes that would suit your appearance and build and would highlight your masculinity.

You might feel a bit awkward at first but if you keep at it, you will soon get used to it. And there will come a time when behaving like a man will come naturally to you. It won’t seem like you are acting or trying too hard. You already felt like a man in your heart. But with time, you will automatically start behaving like one externally as well.



Look for Professional Help

Your physical transformation is a very important part of transitioning. Of course, whether you want to undergo a medical transformation or not is totally your call. But if you are constantly anxious about not looking like a man enough physically, then surgery can help you get rid of that confusion.

You should first consult a therapist who would help you figure out the emotional and psychological problems you might be going through. The idea of transitioning from female to male can throw anyone’s mind into chaos and confusion. It’s a difficult state to be in. Your body is craving for an identity that is different from the biological identity assigned to you at birth. All this can get very complicated for your mind. So, a therapist will help you with the emotional and mental aspect of your transitioning.

Then you should look for a reputed and professional doctor who can offer you the best advice on the probable route you should follow for physical transformation from a female to male.

       
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Dating can be a tricky business. It’s like taking a chance with somebody and then trying and figuring out if the two of you share a common language. It’s like going for a long boat ride with a complete stranger and then gradually fathom that stranger. Romance, passion, understanding; you will have a lot of such expectations from that stranger. But it takes a while to figure out how it will turn out. However, if you are enamoured by a FTM transgender guy and can’t wait to date him, things can be even more challenging.


While dating a FTM trans guy, you can’t just take anything for granted. And if you have only dated cis guys before, this is definitely new terrain for you. You are nervous, excited, everything. However, if you follow a couple of tips while dating a FTM transgender guy, you are going to be alright. If you are lucky, then maybe not just alright but you are totally going to rock in your new founded quest for love!



FTM Trans Guys are Unique and Different


Now just because you are dating a FTM transgender guy, that does not mean you can assume that all transgender guys are carbon copies of each other. You cannot just read stuff about FTM trans guys from the internet and then uncritically apply it to your man.


It’s not that straightforward. Just like all other guys, they come from different backgrounds. Their race, religion, culture, etc. is bound to influence their personalities and behavioural patterns, pretty much as it happens in the case of everyone else.


So, you have to treat your trans guy as a unique person with a distinct individuality and try and figure him out naturally and organically. However, it is also important to realize that all FTM trans guys have different transitioning periods. His transitioning period has a massive impact on his behaviour and moods. You have to keep that in mind while dating a trans guy.


Having said that, you have to walk that tightrope between understanding his nuances and yet, treating him like a regular guy. You have to understand that your trans guy’s sexual, romantic, social and emotional needs are going to be the same as anyone else. The need for optimal emotional and sexual fulfilment in a relationship, the craving for romance, all these expectations are natural in any relationship. But at the same time, you need to consider that his needs might be different from the cis guys you have dated before.



Be Prepared to Face Labels and Stereotypes About Your Relationship


Now, this can be a bit tricky to handle. But with a bit of maturity and understanding, you can get past this phase. Since you are dating a FTM trans guy, it is quite possible that others will judge your relationship. They might label you as ‘gay’. That’s just the ‘not so favourable’ baggage that comes with dating a trans guy and you have to learn to handle it.


It is natural that you might get terribly angry at people labelling your sexuality just because of your partner’s identity. It will seem cruel and insensitive. But you have to learn to live with it. You cannot change societal perceptions overnight. But with a bit of tolerance, you can totally prevent it from affecting you or your relationship.


You just have to remember that any relationship is an intimate and beautiful bond between the people concerned. As long as you and your trans guy are discovering love, passion and emotional intensity in your relationship, you shouldn’t be bothered by anyone else’s opinion on it.



You Have to be Prepared to Support Your Trans Guy


This can be the most challenging and yet the most beautiful part of your relationship. And it is no different from any other relationship. Everyone has certain issues, some vulnerabilities that need to be addressed. We all are incomplete in ourselves which is precisely why we need a relationship. There are times when we need to constantly hear,’ hey you are wonderful. You are the best.


It is pretty much the same with your FTM trans guy. Transitioning is a challenging business. It takes up a lot of his mental and emotional energy. So, it is natural that it can create abrupt mood swings and emotional issues that only a loving partner can address.


Coming out in the open as a transgender guy can be daunting. There are times when the families of trans guys are outrightly hostile towards them. That is why it is so important for you to support your transgender man.



Make Him Feel Great About His Masculinity


Being a FTM trans guy comes with a lot of in-built expectations. And sometimes, these expectations can take a toll on your trans man’s mental and emotional health. That is why it is so important for you to make him feel great about his body, his sexuality and his masculinity.




The masculine feel is very important for a FTM trans guy. Even after transitioning, he faces the constant pressure to appear masculine and macho in a certain way. Therefore, as a partner, you need to constantly compliment him on his masculine appearance, his clothes, maybe that tough macho look in his eyes, his specific body odour that makes you go haywire.


If his quest for the ultimate manliness is supported and adored by his partner, nothing else can make him happier on earth.



Communicate and Find out What Turns Him On


Communication is paramount to any relationship. And especially when you are dating a transgender guy, it becomes even more important. You cannot just presume things that he will enjoy this or that. Make sure you have a candid conversation about what turns him on, what are his sexual needs.


He might have a certain grey area you should probably avoid while getting intimate with him. But there is no way you are going to figure that out unless you ask. For example, some FTM transgender guys might not enjoy certain sexual contact that is normative for female-bodied folk. You have to understand that transitioning is a tough battle physically and mentally. So, he might even be uncomfortable and nervous about certain aspects of the female anatomy. Again, there is no magic wand that is going to make you realize all of this. The only key is one on one, candid communication with your transgender guy.


And it is ultimately the same as any other relationship. Every partner has some preferences, some things they like while getting intimate, certain things they don’t like. Intimacy cannot be built by racing along a dark alley! You have to take it forward slowly and gently, figuring out your partner’s needs and likes along the way. And all that is going to make intimacy even more beautiful and worthwhile.



Do Not Obsess Over His Trans Identity


This is the most important tip to remember while dating a FTM transgender guy. You know that your partner is transgender and accordingly, there are certain things that you will keep in mind. All that is great. But at the end of the day, you have to treat him the way you would any other cis guy. No one likes being made acutely conscious of their identity again and again. That is rude and disrespectful. So, you have to take your relationship forward in a natural and organic manner. When you are out with him when the two of you are talking or having a great time together, reminding him of his ‘trans’ identity all the time is just not cool. And it’s even irritating for him.


You have to figure out your trans guy’s unique needs very subtly and gently. But that does not mean that the sole defining point of the relationship is that he is ‘trans’. You have to take it forward like any other romantic relationship. Candlelight dinners, evenings in the pub, walk on the moonlit beach, a quiet movie date at his place or your place, all the usual stuff that relationships are made of.



Do not Ask Him Uncomfortable Questions About His Past Life


Transitioning is not easy, as it is. It is like discarding an old life and embracing a new one that you have always wanted. When your trans guy is focusing all his physical and mental energies on being the complete man, the last thing he wants is uncomfortable personal questions that take him back to his past life.


Honesty is certainly a key to any good relationship. But there are certain boundaries. And you cannot breach those boundaries unless and until the other person is willing. Maybe, at some point in time, he will himself open up about his past life. He might himself make you a confidante in his life history. But that is for him to decide. Just because you are dating him, you cannot keep on asking your trans guy uncomfortable questions about his past life.


Just let him be. If he has to share something with you, he will by himself. Take things forward slowly and gently.

 

     

 


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The modern dating market is pretty saturated. It’s all about ruthless competition. And the typical dating behaviour of a cis woman doesn’t make things any easier. Well, an exception is always there but humans tend to interpret things through generalization. It’s natural. So, generally speaking, a cis woman is in the habit of playing constant games and making men go on chasing her till they are exasperated, tired and totally confused.

The ambiguous and rather manipulative behaviour of a cis woman has also got to with the fact that she actually has no clue as to what exactly she is looking for. And that is the usual thing to happen when you are in a woman’s body by default. You take it very casually, the whole thing about a woman. You are a woman because you have a woman’s body. It doesn’t mean for you much beyond that. You don’t spend hours thinking about being a woman, pondering on the beauty and ecstasy of femininity. You just take everything for granted.

A transgender woman, on the other hand, is not a woman by default. She is a woman by will and her strong desire to be one. She doesn’t let her body become an impediment in her journey as a woman. The extent to which she is willing to go in order to physically alter her body if of course her choice and decision. But she is a beautiful woman inside out. And that’s because she lives and breathes femininity and womanhood. It’s a matter of life and death to her. And that is precisely why getting a transgender girlfriend is in a different league altogether.

If you think dating a cis woman is the ultimate thing, you have probably just seen the tip of the iceberg. You have just seen the societal manifestation of what people call a woman. But if you want to date a real woman, you have to get a transgender girlfriend.

There are many reasons as to why you should date a transgender girl. Let’s discuss some of these here:



She Understands Your Needs and Desires

Now, you might say that the same is true for your average cis woman. But it isn’t. A cis woman just responds to your needs and desires in a way that is guided by her hormones. It’s like because she is physically a woman and she needs a man, she lets you make those moves and then responds accordingly. She is just playing by her biologically identity. But she doesn’t really understand your needs and desires.

A transgender woman, on the other hand, is in a unique position because of being born in the wrong body. She is a woman but because of her past experiences, she understands the male perspective and male psyche very well. She understands his needs and desires in totality. An average cis woman cannot even come near her understanding of men simply because they haven’t had that intimate peep into both worlds.

Because a transgender woman has this in-built sensitivity, she responds to male attention and admiration with genuine and heartfelt gratitude. When in the last time you remember a cis woman responding with gratitude to your efforts at getting to know her? Most of them have probably either snubbed you off or treated you as if you were a creepy stalker who was harassing them.

To be honest, it’s not entirely the fault of cis women either. They are bought up with a worldview that essentially sees men as perpetrators and women as victims. Therefore, their natural instinct is to ward off male attention by creating a halo around themselves or by playing games with men. A transgender woman is not bought up with that worldview. Because of her past life experiences, she has a very complex and nuanced understanding of how men are. So, she does not judge them. She responds to them with an open heart and understands their needs and desires.



She is Beautiful

There are a lot of societal myths about trans women concerning their appearance. These myths essentially brainwash you into believing that transgender women are manly, coarse and they do not bother with their looks or appearance. In reality, these are just a bunch of lies propagated by a hypocritical society that still finds it hard to accept a transgender woman.

The reality is that a transgender woman is way more beautiful than an average cis woman. If you check out the profiles of trans women on any transgender dating site, you would know what I mean. Even if you just google ‘trans women’ you would come up with images of women who could give a Victoria Secret model a complex.

A trans woman puts in a lot of effort when it comes to her appearance. She takes great care of her skin, knows how to apply make-up well and is always dressed up perfectly for the occasion. On the contrary, it is the average cis woman who is slovenly and careless about her appearance. How many cis women you know would turn up for a date in a pair of jeans and a casual t-shirt with a face that looks like they have just woken up and walked straight out of the door? Probably many. A transgender woman would never do that. She would go to great lengths to select an appropriate dress, footwear and accessories for the occasion. Finally, she would also select an appropriate look for her face. And when you do meet her, it will be like a Hollywood diva is sitting with you!



She Accepts You as Who You Are

With a cis woman, you need a lot of filters. You can hardly be your original self with her. She has way too many expectations. And in order to fulfil those, you are always trying to project an image. The real you have to be kept hidden. And that can get very stressing and frustrating for a man. None likes to go on pretending forever.

With a transgender woman, you can be the real you. She has had such a challenging life full of complex experiences.  A trans woman has undergone so many turbulent emotional states that she is mentally very mature and understanding. She knows that a person has many sides. She won’t necessarily judge you for things that are probably a very big deal for a cis woman. Even if she has certain doubts about something, she would not dramatically flare-up. She would coolly and calmly discuss the situation with you. A transgender woman would not get upset with you every now and then over trivial matters.

A transgender woman also has a more fluid conception of masculinity. She would connect with you as a person. With her, you don’t have the pressure of constantly having to project a certain masculine image. With her, you can be yourself.



She Might be Your Soul Mate

The whole idea of dating should be ideal to find a soul mate. But does the concept of soul mate really exist these days? It seems like a far-off thing from fairytales and the past. The disillusionment with the idea of eternal love has got something to do with the dating patterns of cis women and men.

Modern dating has become a game, a show off the venture. It is anything but love. It is natural that modern men have become disillusioned with the idea of finding love. And they just go from girl to girl, taking her out on expensive dates, buying gifts for her. But somehow, they lose that will to create a connection with the other person’s soul.

A transgender woman might just be the soul mate you have been long looking for. She doesn’t have the kind of expectations from you that a cis woman has. She doesn’t play toxic games with you. She doesn’t judge you constantly. With a transgender woman, you can be your real self.

And it’s only when we drop the façade of presences that real love begins. Or at least the possibilities of it begin. In order to get anywhere even close to real love, two people have to communicate with each other’s souls. And for that to happen, they have to connect with each other at a very genuine level.

Modern-day cis men and women are not falling in love with each other. They are just falling in love with each other’s reflections that they chose to call man and woman. And that is why they are so unhappy in love. They end up thinking there is no real love. But when you date a transgender woman, you have finally met someone who is willing to look directly into your soul. She is beautiful outside but she is not shallow. She is also beautiful inside. She has a heart of gold. And if you are lucky, maybe in her, you have finally found the soul mate you have been long looking for.

     

 


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Two-spirit is a gender that is found in only North American who fulfills one of many mixed gender roles found traditionally among many Native Americans and Canadian First Nations indigenous groups. The mixed gender roles encompassed by the term historically included wearing the clothing and performing the work associated with both men and women. This English term emerged in 1990 out of the third annual inter-tribal Native American/First Nations gay/lesbian American conference in Winnipeg. 


A direct translation of the Ojibwe term, Niizh manidoowag, "two-spirited" or "two-spirit" is usually used to indicate a person whose body has a masculine spirit and a feminine spirit. The term can also be used more abstractly, to designate the presence of two contrasting human spirits or two contrasting animal spirits (which, depending on the culture, might be Eagle and Coyote). Will Roscoe writes that male and female berdaches have been "documented in over 130 tribes, in every region of North America, among every type of native culture."The term berdache was coined by western anthropologists and used until the late 20th century, mainly to describe feminine Native Americans assigned male at birth. 


The term is however inaccurate and can nowadays be considered offensive. Non-natives who use this identity are often accused of "appropriating Native culture." The history of two-spirits among Indigenous American culture dates back thousands, of years and has been documented in more than 130 North American tribes. Throughout history, a person who was recognized as two-spirit was someone who identified with both male and female gender roles, and so two-spirit is essentially a third gender recognized in Indigenous cultures. 


The perspective among Indigenous Americans was that having this third gender was a strength their society benefited from. In the Zuni culture, a person's gender was not assigned at birth but was grown into 3 or 4 years of age. Two-spirits were not thought of as just a man or just a woman but as embodying characteristics of both genders in a single person, making them a more whole human being.



This Two-Spirits encourages the belief that, by avoiding the pressures surrounding an individual, they are capable of establishing their own identity. This identity for native Two-Spirit individuals arises from an acceptance of their native cultural values and a rejection of Western values. This rejection specifically applies to Western conventions regarding race and sexual identity as the Two-Spirit person’s identity is maintained by their sexual orientation as both male and female and their commitment to their culture or ethnicity.


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The popularity of a transgender dating site has risen dramatically over the past couple of years. A lot of these dating sites are open to both trans and cis folks. Joining a trans dating site is an excellent way to look for your soul mate. You can end up meeting someone with who you want to be in a serious relationship or simply meet a diverse set of interesting people from all over the world.

As a cisgender person, joining a trans dating site is going to open up your mind to different kinds of worldviews. You will get out of your narrow comfort zone and learn to appreciate beauty and diversity in a more wholesome sort of way.

A transgender dating site is a perfect place for finding your soul mate. Especially if you are an introvert and would be terribly shy of approaching anyone in person randomly at a café or a bar, then a trans dating site is just the right thing for you. You can talk to many people without having to worry about the embarrassment of having to talk face to face. Of course, you are going to speak face to face and have a proper date if you do meet an interesting trans woman or man out there. But when you are in the initial phase of just connecting with people, you can do so while keeping your privacy and reserve intact.

A transgender dating site is many things together. And there are numerous benefits of joining one. This article is going to list a few of them:



You Have a Better Chance of Meeting Like-Minded People

When you are trying to meet your potential love interest offline, your options are limited. The maximum you would do is meet someone interesting at a café or a bar, a friend’s party or a public event in your city. You can of course meet people randomly and end up talking to them but the chances of that happening are totally dependent on fate!

But if you join a transgender dating site, you can view profiles of interesting people from all over the world at the click of a mouse. When you have the chances of communicating with such a diverse set of people, then the chances of meeting someone like-minded increase manifold. Your options are not so limited by fate or chance.



You Have the Advantage of Multitasking

Now, this is a fairly practical advantage of joining a trans dating site. On a dating site, you can zero down on a number of profiles that interest you and talk to many people simultaneously.

This kind of multitasking is not quite possible when you are looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend offline. There are practical limitations of time and space online and there is no technology at your disposal so you can just talk to one person at a time.

If you have a busy schedule, dating can seem to be very time-consuming. You are so busy with your work that you’d rather postpone dating than having to find a partner offline! A trans dating site with its advantage of multi-tasking is just the right thing for you.



No Fear of Judgment

When a man tries to talk to a random woman he feels attracted to at a party or a public event, that woman might just totally ignore him or think of him as a stalker. This can be a huge put off for any man looking for a potential love interest offline.

Unless he takes the chance of interacting with unknown women, how does he look for his soul mate? One can of course meet people through friends but then that again is a very limited set of people. When you are looking for a love interest, you really need to be able to communicate with a lot of people. It is after a lot of hits and trial that you can be with someone you feel connected to.

On a trans dating site, there is no fear of that kind of judgment. The whole purpose of a dating site is well, dating! So, you can talk to as many people as you like without the fear of being labelled creepy. Everyone out there has a common goal. They are looking for someone to date. And so, everyone is willing to take chances and connect with many people. That is again a drawback in real life. When you are trying to talk to somebody, how do you get to know if they are even looking for love or not? I mean, of course, you can ask them but you can’t do that straight away right. Maybe, a person just has a friendly attitude overall and you mistake it for flirting.

On a transgender site, there is no space for that kind of confusion. Everyone is out there for dating. If you are chatting with someone and you think it’s going somewhere, you can pretty much ask them straightforward questions to avoid confusion or disappointment later on.



You Meet a Person Only When You are Ready

This is a big advantage of dating through a trans dating site. There is no time limit. You can communicate with a person for a fairly long period of town without facing any pressure of having to meet them.

On a transgender dating site, you can build up your rapport with a person slowly and organically. Get to know their interests, hobbies, and their worldview. Talk to them regularly over a period of time. And if and when the two of you feel it’s the right time, you guys go out on a date in real life. There is no pressure to do so quickly. In real life, it’s the opposite. You spot someone at a café or a bar or a friend’s party, get insanely attracted to them and ask for their phone number. If you are lucky and you do get that number, you end up going on dates after casual texting.

This is so not the right approach for a serious relationship. This sort of thing can lead to flings but not necessarily a relationship. It’s like you two have started seeing each other before you even figure out what the two of you have in common. And if you guys don’t really have anything in common, then the thing just collapses and you both realize it was a waste of time.

A trans dating site follows the good old school model of dating in a way. It gives you the chance to figure out a person and evaluate them before the two of you meet in real life.



A Trans Dating Site is Great for All Personality Types

The so-called real world is full of judgmental people. If you are a transgender person, it gets almost impossible to look for a partner offline. There is fear of social judgment, discrimination and even violence at times. That’s precisely why a trans dating site is a safe place for transsexual people to look for their soul mate without the fear of societal disapproval.

A trans dating site is not just for transgender people though. It is open to all sorts of people – cis folk, bisexuals, people who are ambivalent about their gender identity, etc. It is a diverse and liberating universe in the true sense of the world. A trans dating site gives all personality types a chance to look for love.



A Trans Dating Site Protects Your Privacy

Sometimes, a transgender person can be vulnerable to abuse even online. In such a scenario, a foolproof mechanism for protecting one’s identity becomes very important. When you register on a trans dating site, you can choose to give out only that much information about yourself as you desire.


You can of course upload photos and videos of yourself to attract a potential love interest. But you can also limit the pictures and other details that are visible online.

A trans dating site gives you a lot of autonomy in terms of controlling what personal information you share and with whom you share it. In conventional dating, it’s difficult to control that kind of thing. You meet someone in real life, get carried away and that makes you more vulnerable to potential harm. It’s possible that you got so carried away that you gave your phone number and even address to the other person right away.

A trans dating site can save you from that kind of scenario. Here, things are totally under your control. You are not meeting someone in real life, to begin with. You are checking out thousands of profiles that are registered on the site. And from there, you choose a few profiles and start chatting. But you are chatting with them online, not meeting face to face. So, there is little chance of getting carried away.

On a trans dating site, you can be a little bit objective about the whole dating thing, especially in the initial phase. You can protect your personal information and this saves you from any potential harm or trouble.

   

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Gender Fluid


Awareness of multiple genders and sexual orientation has recently taken a limelight in the media, however misconceptions and stereotypes still linger because of this. Before we start to dive into this subject matter, it is important to know simple terms such as gender, intercourse, and sexuality. Gender is what people feel within themselves, according to cultural understandings. Such as girls are soft and compassionate, whilst men are less so. intercourse is a biological term which directly refers to the genitals one was born with. Sexuality is whom one is attracted to sexually and emotionally. This may or may not align with their gender.



Gender fluid is an identity that seems to be regularly mistaken. Gender fluid refers to a gender which varies over time. A gender fluid person may at any time identify as male, female, neutrois, or any other non-binary identity, or some combination of identities. It is a gender identity which can be described as a mix of boy and girl. A person who is Gender Fluid may always feel like a mix of the two traditional genders but may feel more boy some days, and more girl other days.  Being Gender Fluid has nothing to do with which set of genitalia one has, nor their sexual orientation. It is solemnly as what they feel like inside, and gender fluid people never seem to stick with a single gender identity.


Many celebrities consider themselves genderfluid, such as Miley Cyrus, Tilda Swinton, DJ Ruby Rose, and Andrej Peji?. Standards for each gender has been ever evolving, from more intense beliefs, to sneaky yet still beliefs.


One of the main misconceptions for people who are gender fluid is that their gender is nonexistent, however, an individual who is gender fluid experiences a constant shift between the gender spectrums. There are some people who fall under the Trans spectrum that do not feel dysphoric about their gender, but it is well known that most do. Gender Dysphoria is a feeling of your physical body not matching up with how you feel internally that it should be. Many people would describe the feeling of dysphoria in many different ways, though all of the ways that it is described make it clear that it is a negative feeling.


Many people who are gender fluid will date bisexual or pansexual people, those who are attracted to two genders or are attracted to people no matter what gender they are. Some people who are gender fluid will use pronouns other than he/him or she/her. Some will use the gender-neutral they/them, or another term that they choose and use regularly. Along with different pronouns, sometimes they will use gender-neutral terms for themselves while dating. Instead of having their significant other calling them their boyfriend/girlfriend, they will term such as “date mate” or even a term as simple as “partner” or “significant other”.


Many people who are gender fluid will often dress and appear as unisex or androgynous, though in some cases they will decide to mix objects that most would place within gender categories. A good example of that would be someone who decides to wear masculine appearing clothing, with makeup or another part of themselves appearing feminine.


It is recommended that when coming across a genderfluid person, that you politely ask what pronouns they would like to be referred as. Some people who experience fluid gender don't use the word "genderfluid" for themselves. Some people with fluid genders call themselves by a word such as genderqueer, bigender, multigender, polygender, or other words. This can be because the people haven't seen the word "genderfluid," or it can be because they don't think it describes them well. It's important to understand that each person has the right to decide what to call their gender identity and that they're the only one who can do that.



Some genderfluid people find that their environment does not influence their gender identity to change. They find that their gender fluidity is unpredictable and happens randomly. Other genderfluid people find that their gender changes depending on the situation, and is influenced by inside or outside sources. For genderfluid people who think their changes in gender might have to do with their menstrual cycle, they think it might be caused by how the natural hormone levels rise and fall during that cycle. It’s possible that a person might think that they tend to feel male during their periods even if that’s only rarely the case for them because the incongruence of that situation would feel noticeable and memorable.


The biggest thing to keep in mind for both sides of a relationship with someone who is gender fluid, whether that relationship is platonic or romantic, is being honest with each other about who you are and what you are looking for. Being open with a significant other can really be better for both people involved than one might think.

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Society has now certainly become more open and receptive to the idea of people being different. But a transgender person still faces social stigma and discrimination. People would turn the transgender person into a fetish, treat them like a subject of enquiry and be fascinated by them in a very morbid, inhumane sort of way. But there still are very few people who would consider dating a transgender woman.

If you are one of those unique and courageous men who have decided to step into the intimate world of a transgender woman, it is important for you to know what impresses her and what does not. Just like every cis woman, a transgender woman admires an honest, truthful and chivalrous man. Chivalry never gets out of fashion. But there are certain things about which you have to be extra careful while trying to impress a transgender woman.


There are certain tips you can follow. And if you do manage to ace these tips, the transgender woman you have been admiring from a distance will certainly welcome you into her beautiful and feminine world.

 


Compliment her Frequently


There isn’t a woman in the universe who doesn’t love a genuine, heartfelt compliment. Just looking at her with eyes full of admiration is not enough. Women like it when men notice the minutest things about them and pay them a compliment. It could be about her hair, her smile, her eyes or even her wit and intelligence.


Even if you are just talking to a transgender woman on a dating site, pay her few compliments every now and then. This would certainly take things forward and build up interest from her side.


A transgender woman is an emotional creature. She is twice as likely to think about a man who compliments her appearance and mannerisms than the guy who just strikes a straightforward conversation.


When you compliment a woman, it is like giving her a signal that you notice everything about her. And that you admire her. A woman needs affirmation from your side before she starts opening up herself. It might sound clichéd but that is how it generally works. When a lady is confident that a man is genuinely interested in her, that’s when she too starts showing interest.

 


Be Creative with Your Plans


It is certainly not easy to impress a transgender woman. You have been chatting with her for a while on a trans dating site. It’s going good and now, you’d like to ask her out. Before you do so, have it all figured out as to where can you take her, how will you make your first date special and all that.


A transgender woman is independent and confident. She has faced a lot of challenges in her life and therefore, she admires a smart man who can interest and impress her with his dynamic personality and firebrand soul.


So, you can’t take her out just anywhere. Find out in advance what activities she enjoys and then surprise her with a date that involves all those activities. Incorporate something quirky and eccentric into your date. For example, if she is passionate about books, take her to a stunning library before you take her to other places. Or if she loves outdoors, surprise her with a fun date planned on those lines.


She will certainly more than notice the efforts you have taken in getting to know her hobbies and interests and planning a date for her accordingly. Not everyone would do that for a transgender woman, or for any woman for that matter. Most of the guys would just do the stock cafe/bar /pub outing scenario. Only a guy who is genuinely interested in her would do what you are doing.

 


Do not get Obsessed with her ‘Trans’ Identity


You are dating a transgender woman perhaps for the first time. Maybe, it’s a new experience for you so it’s natural that you have many questions about her life trajectory, her struggles and all that. But you have to save those questions for a later time or better still, not ask them at all.


You have to treat her the way you would treat a cis woman. Her transgender identity doesn’t make her peculiar in any way. You talk to her like you would with a woman and then if you guys do go out on a date, just get to know her as a person. Get to know her likes and dislikes, her views on life, what she likes doing, what are her hobbies.


Your transgender woman should not feel that it is not a date but an interview. It is extremely rude and disrespectful to bombard her with questions related to her identity and transitioning when you guys are out on a date. These things come much later. Suppose you two really get along well and end up in a relationship, then maybe you can ask her some things. But even then, it is entirely her prerogative to entertain your questions or skip those.


You have to understand that just because you are dating a transgender person, that doesn’t entitle you to treat them like an object of enquiry. You are not a journalist out on an assignment interviewing a transgender woman. You are a man falling in love with her, looking forward to being in a relationship with her. So, treat her with utmost respect and dignity.

 


Punctuality is Important


The first impression is indeed the last impression. Everything seems to be perfect. You have chosen the right place for your first date. You are looking forward to some great moments. But you are, let’s say 20 minutes late for the date.


Maybe, 20 minutes delay is not a big deal by your personal standards. But your transgender woman is punctual and she came on time. Just imagine a woman waiting for you for 20 minutes on a date. What kind of impression it would create? In all probability, she would never want to see you again.


Punctuality is very important when it comes to impressing a transgender woman, or any woman for that matter.


So, learn the value of punctuality. If you have a date planned, reach the venue even 10 minutes before the scheduled time. Just try and imagine an alternative scenario for your 1st date. When your transgender woman arrives at the café and sees you sitting there with a patient and alluring smile, she will be perhaps thinking, ‘this guy is worth it after all’. She will think so because you arrived before time. For her, it is a signal that she is important to you. Just remember, for women, it is these little things that matter.

 


A Gentleman Never Goes out of Fashion


Women across all times and epochs and ages respect and admire a gentleman. It is no different for a transgender woman. If you want to win her respect, admiration and eventually love, you have to be a thorough gentleman.


You cannot put up a façade of being a gentleman. It’s something that ingrained in your very being and reflects your basic values and thought system. You have to be nice and courteous to her. That goes without saying. But the gentlemanly code of conduct extends to all fellow human beings. You have to be compassionate to everyone around you.


One sure-shot way of figuring out a person’s true character is by observing how they behave with people who are below them on the social ladder. When you take out your transgender woman to a restaurant on a date, she would keenly observe how you communicate with the waiters and the serving staff. If you are not a gentleman, you will manage to put up a façade in front of her. But when it comes to your behaviour with people who are serving you, it will be outright rude and disrespectful. Your mask will fall off and your true character will be revealed.


On the contrary, if you are polite and courteous with people who are serving you at a restaurant and you go out of your way to help out people and make them feel comfortable, your lady will be impressed.


A transgender woman has a heart of gold. And she wants to see the same kind of compassion reflected in her man’s actions.


Then, there are some basic etiquettes of dating like a gentleman that you need to adhere to. If you are going on a date with her for the first time, you should pay the bills. It will be rude of you to expect her to split the bill on the first date itself, especially if you are the one who asked out.


However, on subsequent dates, the two of you can certainly build an arrangement for splitting the bills that suits you and your partner alike.


And finally, remember the good old chivalrous things. Offer to help her with her bags while the two of you are walking. Open the doors for her, draw out that chair for her. It’s not that she cannot carry her own bags or she needs your Favour constantly. It’s just that as a woman, she feels special and loved if her man constantly shows that he cares so much for her.

     

 


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A long-distance relationship is not for everyone. It is for those who truly believe in love and are willing to walk that extra mile for it. They are willing to even undergo physical separation from their lover for the sake of love. Relationship with a transsexual is not everyone’s cup of tea either. When you have committed yourself to dating a transsexual person, you have already signaled to the world that you are a unique person whose choices are not dictated by societal dogmas and stereotypes.


Your transsexual partner is anyways tough enough to endure a long-distance relationship. They have already won the challenging battle of coming out in the open with their identity. And transitioning is an extremely difficult phase. So, if they have come out of all that victoriously, they won’t really let distance become an issue if they are in love with someone.


You have also battled societal stigma, disapproval and outright condemnation while making the decision to date a transsexual person. So, you are a tough cookie as well. However, this does not mean that keeping a long-distance relationship is an easy deal. On the contrary, it is extremely challenging to be in a long-distance relationship with someone and keep the love alive.


Regular communication is very important for a long-distance relationship. And so are a couple of other things. This article is going to list a couple of tips that can help you keep up such a relationship. If you and your transsexual partner follow these tips, then even distance cannot be an impediment in your journey of togetherness and love!

 


Trust

 

Trust is the foundation of a long-distance relationship. Well, it is important for any relationship. But in a long-distance relationship, its importance is doubly elevated. You guys don’t stay in the same town physically. So, you have no way of really finding out what the other is doing most of the time, where are they going, who are they meeting. And you probably also have a work-life, deadlines to meet, household chores to fix. So, you cannot just leave everything aside and constantly spy on your partner through phone or social media! That would also be mentally unhealthy for you and toxic for your relationship.


Therefore, the only thing that works is trust. You have to realize that you two are together for a reason and distance is only a temporary impediment. Trust is of course not built overnight. It requires regular communication. Even though your relationship is long-distance, you have to make your partner a priority. Make sure that the two of you talk to each other almost every day even if it’s for a short while.


Just a virtual hug or kiss from your partner before you are going to sleep can go a long way towards building trust. If any of you are super busy and cannot communicate for a while due to some reasons, just tell that your partner. Communication keeps everything sorted. And lack of it creates mistrust.


If there is something about your partner’s behaviour that is bothering you and if despite all the trust, you have started doubting something, just ask them candidly. A good, honest conversation is like a stress buster and trust builder in any long-distance relationship.

 


Make Time for Each Other

 

You both are super busy. And you both have your own life, your own circle of friends wherever you live. But you have to understand that being in a relationship; you have to be each other’s priority.


So, it is very important that you create time for each other on a daily basis. Most of us spend a lot of time on social media even while we are working. So, it’s super easy to slip in flirtatious text messages to your transsexual partner once in a while even during work hours.


Get creative with your communication mode. Send each other pictures and videos from your everyday life. If you are in a restaurant having a great time with your friends, maybe you can just shoot a small video using her phone, tell your partner where you are and you are having a good time but are missing them. These small gestures go a long way towards keeping the fire in your relationship going.


Do not do everything by a plan. That can get monotonous and boring. Be unpredictable every once in a while. Send her a text or a WhatsApp message out of the blue telling her what you ate for lunch today. The idea is to be a part of each other’s immediate universe even though you are not living in the same town physically. It is certainly challenging but if you make time for each other and think of innovative and fun ways of communicating, you can do it.

 


You Have to Keep the Love Alive

 

Now, this is the point where a lot of long-distance relationships falter. Lack of physical intimacy due to the distance factor can ruin even the best of relationships. Sexual love is a basic need for everyone and if they can’t get it from their partner, they start looking elsewhere.


So, it is important that you and your transsexual partner find ways and means to keep the fire of love and passion burning despite the distance. You can consider having phone sex. Tease each other with sexy photos and messages. Phone sex can get very close and intimate if you are into it. The two of you can constantly moan and breathe erotically while you are building up the erotic crescendo over the phone. If you can actually imagine yourself getting physical with your partner while the two of you throw in graphic details of what you are doing to each other, phone sex can get very real.


Now, love surely doesn’t mean only physical love. Emotional love is very important too. In fact, in any relationship, after a point in time, emotional love is the real thing and physical love becomes an expression of your emotional intimacy with your partner.


So, it is important to keep the romance alive. Maybe, have a candlelight dinner date through a live zoom conversation! Create that mood in your apartment with beautiful lights, candles, wine and all that. Ask your partner to create a similar setting where they live. And then the two of you can have a live date. You can even try out a similar kind of live dating session from a restaurant or a café.


It’s also good to get old fashioned once in a while. That is, you can surprise your transsexual partner by sending chocolates, roses, greeting cards, flirty lingerie or whatever gifts they like once in a while.

Last but not the least, a simple ‘I Love You’ in the morning after you get up and, in the night, before you go to sleep would make your transsexual partner feel your love like you are sleeping just next to them.

 


Make Plans to Meet Each Other Once in a While Despite the Distance

 

A long-distance relationship doesn’t mean that you are constantly making love only on phone! You have to make some sort of a commitment to actually seeing each other in person even if it’s for a couple of days in 2-3 months.


And you have to make sure that when the two of you do meet each other, that time is literally reserved for your relationship. When your transsexual partner is visiting you, make the most of that visit. Even if it means going a bit out of your way and postponing all appointments, just do it. Nothing is more important in life more than a loving partner.


A couple of days of togetherness can be like a lifetime for people who are in a long-distance relationship. So, you and your transsexual partner have to make each other a priority and try and make travel plans to one another’s city if and when possible.

 


Discuss the Future of Your Relationship

 

Now, this is very important. In a long-distance relationship, you go to figure out where exactly it is going after a point in time. That is, the two of you should have a concrete roadmap for getting together at some point in time. The distance is ok at the moment but there has to be some mutual vision of the distance ending sometime in future.


Have candid discussions with your transsexual partner on a regular basis. No one wants to be enduring distance infinitely. There has to be some light at the end of the tunnel. So, the two of you have to have a concrete plan as to when and how the two of you can be together in one place. And you have to constantly discuss the progress you are making on that plan.


After all, it is for the sake of love that the two of you are putting up with a long-distance relationship. And that love has to materialize in you being physically together at some point in time.

 

 

     

 


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Transitioning is a very complex process. Every transgender woman has a unique transitioning trajectory. The approach that she adopts towards transitioning depends totally on her personality and her own priorities as an individual. There is no ‘one fits all’ method to transitioning. Every transgender woman has a distinct individuality and that is what guides her future life choices.

She might go all the way up to altering her physique and facial structure surgically as much as possible to look more feminine. That is, she might go for Sex Reassignment Surgery (SRS). Or she might just opt for the Hormone Replacement Therapy and take it from there. But irrespective of whatever approaches she takes, a basic grounding in etiquettes of femininity would certainly help her in projecting that feminine image.

She is taking a leap of faith by choosing to live like a woman. She is a beautiful woman already. She feels like a woman inside out. It’s just that as a transgender woman, she needs to master some external manifestations of femininity in order to take forward her journey as a woman.

And it’s not just about fitting in or some stamp of approval from society. It is very much about her own desire to give a beautiful, sublime expression to her innate femininity.  Societal codes and conventions aren’t always binding and suffocating. Sometimes, they get us the kind of recognition that we have been craving for. Adhering to a certain etiquette of femininity would also make a transgender woman feel that her body and heart are completely in sync.

This article is going to list some tips that a transgender woman can follow for bringing out her innate femininity.



Dressing & Fashion

The dressing is more than just an external manifestation of femininity. What a woman wears offers a window to her soul. For a transsexual woman, it is important to choose stylish, chic, feminine attire that will complement her looks, personality and body type.

Whether she is wearing dresses or skirts, the colours and cuts should complement her body type and enhance her femininity. She should also keenly follow all the latest fashion trends. Of course, she should not blindly copy these trends. She has to eventually evolve her distinct style in accordance with her unique beauty and attributes. But it is very important to know about all the happening trends in the world of fashion. She should not come across as someone who wears beautiful but outdated clothes.  For a modern, feminine woman, looking contemporary and chic is equally important.

In fact, a transgender woman should read fashion magazines on a regular basis. She should never miss out on the ‘Fashion’ and ‘Lifestyle’ pages of the newspapers. Constantly checking out what celebrities are wearing these days gives one a perfect peep into the world of fashion and glamour. It will also give her innovative ideas on how to design her own wardrobe.

Yet another advantage of reading a fashion magazine is that it will give her an idea as to where she can buy the clothes from. She will get an update on all the latest and happening ladies’ apparel stores in the town.

Last but not the least, it is very important to check out what other women around you are wearing. You just have to walk around the street and observe the kind of clothes that women are wearing. This will give you more practical and hands-on tips for dressing up. Maybe, what a fashion model featured on the magazine cover is wearing is not practical for you to wear in day-to-day life. Maybe, it doesn’t suit your body type. But if you notice women around you, which will give you an idea on how to merge the high fashion sensibility of designer wear with the more practical sensibility of day-to-day wear.



Learning the Art of Applying Makeup

A transgender woman has to perfect the art of applying makeup. It might seem like the easiest thing in the world considering that most women apply makeup on a day-to-day basis. But applying makeup well is not that easy. It is a skill that can be mastered with constant practice and learning.

A transgender woman should always choose the right kind of makeup according to her skin tone and facial features. If her eyes are small, then she has to highlight her eyes using adequate eye makeup. If she already has large eyes, then the eye makeup would be somewhat different. If she has fuller lips already, then she has to be very careful while applying lipstick. If she has thin lips, then it is very important to enhance those through makeup.

A good way of learning make up is by watching YouTube tutorials on ‘how to apply makeup’. Social media sites like YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, etc. have amazing makeup tutorials. Depending on your skill and experience level, you can choose the kind of videos you want to watch. If you are a beginner, you can watch videos listing ‘makeup tips for beginners’’. If you as a transgender woman want to learn how to apply basic, nude makeup for an everyday look, there are specific tutorials for those. If you are interested in learning party makeup or more edgy, dramatic makeup, then there are tutorials for that too.

Practice is very important for perfecting the art of makeup. Just watching YouTube videos isn’t going to do the trick. One has to constantly practise what one has learnt.

Appropriate makeup that highlights her facial features will make a transgender woman bring out her gorgeous self in full bloom. And after all that makeup, do not forget to ace the look with that gorgeous, alluring smile!



Feminine Voice

Makeup, dressing sense, all these constitute the 1st step towards the external manifestation of femininity. But communicating in a feminine voice is equally important. And this can be tricky terrain for a transgender woman. The transition process is complex and multi-layered. Finding a feminine voice during and post-transition can be challenging.

But with a few tips and tricks, a transgender woman can simulate a feminine voice. Even if she has a deep, manly voice, she can make the pitch somewhat higher and the voice would sound feminine. If she breathes from the stomach and then speaks, it would help in getting rid of vibrations in the chest.

A transgender woman with a somewhat manly voice can also consider taking singing lessons or just practice singing by herself. She can try out her favourite numbers. Singing is an excellent way of training the voice in a way that makes it sound more feminine. Singing would add the high-pitched notes to her voice. It would also make her voice smoother. All this would certainly enhance the feminine quality of her voice.

If she wants to go a step further, she can even consider taking professional voice lessons. There exist professional voice training courses specifically targeted at transgender women to help them make their voice sound more feminine. A professional coach can give you numerous tips and tricks for voice projection that can make your voice sound smoother and sweeter. You could also try out YouTube videos that teach voice projection and offer lessons on how to make the voice sound more melodious and feminine.



Speak Softly

It’s not just the quality of your voice that makes you sound feminine. The way you speak is very important. A transgender woman should try to speak as softly and politely as she can. A soft, soothing deep, husky voice can also sound very feminine. On the contrary, a screeching voice, the kind of voice where the speaker is literally shouting can be very unpleasant on the ears.

So, she can step up her feminine quotient by speaking softly and politely.



Eyebrows and Shaving are Very Important for her Grooming

Eyebrows define the shape of the entire face. For a feminine look, it’s very important that the eyebrows are regularly plucked and in great shape. Messy, bushy eyebrows aren’t going to make you look all that feminine. Neatly plucked eyebrows with a bit of arch are what will do the trick.

It goes without saying that shaving is very important in order to get rid of all that stubble. Also, you shouldn’t shave in a hurry. Take your time and make sure you are doing it perfectly. Be gentle so that you don’t end up developing any rashes or infections by being too harsh and rough on your own skin.

Clear, smooth skin is the hallmark of ultimate femininity. And for getting that type of look, you have to be extremely meticulous and patient with your shaving routine. Waxing is of course the easiest and most convenient practice. But you can even consider electrolysis or laser hair removal.



Be Confident

Just as a woman cannot wear any makeup better than a smile, she cannot wear any attribute better than confidence.

A confident woman literally radiates with the unique beauty of her personality and she spreads her special aura everywhere she goes.

People are naturally attracted to a confident woman, they wish to speak with her, they want to be around her and take her opinions seriously.

So, a transgender woman should be confident in all spheres of life. When she radiates with the beauty and confidence of her innate femininity, absolutely nothing can stop her from conquering the world.

     

 


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Dating has become a complicated affair in these times. There is a lot of hit and trial involved. And then to add to your woes, a vast majority of cis women have a major attitude problem. This is not to portray them in a negative light. But the reality is they are so much sought after by men and women alike that it seems like they have a never-ending pool of choices. The kind of overwhelming attention they get all the time makes them super demanding and picky. But have you ever thought about dating a transsexual woman?


Transsexual females are incredibly gorgeous, well-groomed, and sophisticated. They can also be super intelligent and witty. If you check out the pictures of transsexual females from various trans dating sites, you would know what I mean. They are as beautiful as any cis woman can be or maybe even more because they are extremely conscious of their femininity and value it way more.


Transsexual females know the value of struggle and therefore they are way more mentally evolved than your average cis female. There are many advantages of dating transsexual females. This article would list some of those.



She has a Strong Personality


A transsexual female has seen a lot in her life, literally so. Someone who decides to undergo transitioning cannot be a weak-willed person. It requires immense courage and determination to take that kind of decision.

The vast baggage of societal prejudices that she deals with on a regular basis makes her stronger with each passing day. I mean compared to the kind of apathy and collective societal disrespect that a trans woman has to go through, the life of any cis woman would be like a bed of roses.


Somebody who battles all that on a regular basis and comes out victorious has to have a super-strong personality. So, if you are looking for a girl with a strong personality, dating a trans female might be the best experience of your life.


When you are looking for a serious relationship, you want to be with someone who can keep their act together and possibly, help you keep yours too. A transsexual female can do that very well. In fact, with her strong personality, she can even act as a barrier between you and negative people who can potentially harm you.


It helps to have a partner who is strong-willed. They can push you towards discipline and dedication towards your own life goals. And what can be better than having a partner who can contribute to your personal and professional growth and development?



She has a More Balanced Understanding of Gender


This is a major advantage when it comes to dating transsexual females. A transsexual female has a more balanced and evolved understanding of gender as compared to your average cis female.


The kind of rigid and one-dimensional understanding that society has of gender makes both men and women suffer in innumerable ways.


A man wanting to date a woman faces innumerable pressures in terms of portraying a certain macho image and playing up to the conventional image of a man. A transsexual female, because of her evolved understanding of gender, can be definitely more understanding and supportive of somebody who has a more fluid conception of gender. That is, your transsexual female girlfriend would not judge you to be any less manly on the basis of little quirks or idiosyncrasies.


Being in a relationship with someone who has a more balanced understanding of gender can be more emotionally fulfilling. You can be your natural self with such a person. There is no need to constantly put up an act. And that’s such an incredibly beautiful and uplifting thing for a relationship.



She is Gorgeous and Super well Groomed!


Now you might say that even a cis woman can be gorgeous and well-groomed. True that but a transsexual female has somewhat of an edge over your average cis female in this matter. She has spent an enormous amount of money and mental energy in undergoing transitioning. Her identity as a woman is as important to her as breathing in fresh air for survival. It’s not something she takes for granted or is nonchalant about. Her femininity means a lot to her.


And that is why a transsexual female takes an altogether different level of interest in her appearance and grooming. Her femininity is a matter of pride to her and she does all can in her power to look super alluring and beautiful.


This is not to say that you should date a transsexual female only for her physical beauty. But physical attraction certainly is a very important component of any relationship. Only when you are attracted to a person’s physical appearance, you can consider taking things to the next level.



She is Sophisticated and Intelligent


If you are looking to date a sophisticated, polished woman who you can take out to the most happening and chic places of the town and talk perhaps even of literature and existentialism over a glass of wine, then the transsexual female is just the right kind of person for you.


She is articulate, intelligent, and knows how to conduct herself in a sophisticated and elite society. It is even said that transsexual females are twice as likely to hold a college degree when compared to the average cis woman.


Physical attraction is the first step of a relationship. The next step is mental compatibility. And for figuring that out, it is important that you should be able to have a conversation with your partner. An articulate and intelligent woman who can seduce you not just by her physical charms but through her wit and intellect as well is indeed someone special and rare.



Your Relationship with her Would be Great Sexually!


Now, let’s be honest. Physical love is a very important part of any relationship. On the basis of sexual chemistry and compatibility alone, relationships can be made or broken. All differences in temperament, the disposition can be conveniently put aside if things are good in bed.


And this is where a relationship with a transsexual female would give you that extra edge. Again, this is not to stereotype her but it’s true that female transsexuals are known to have the most stunning of bodies.  Her body is no less than a sculpture and she has those incredibly voluptuous curves that can distract anyone to the verge of insanity.


So, your sexual experience with her would be nothing less than amazing. A female transsexual’s breasts are usually firm, perky, and younger as compared to an average cis female. While dating her, you don’t have to worry about the fear of aging and sagging that comes with a conventional female body. You wouldn’t have to worry about her breasts sagging or about her abdomen accumulating fat over years.


In fact, if you start dating a transsexual female during the initial phases of her transition, you would realize that she is getting hotter and hotter with time. And it is an incredible thing for anyone to realize that their partner not only manages to keep the ravages of time at bay but also gets even more ravishing with time!



No Fear of Unwanted Pregnancies


A child is a beautiful entrant to your life. But only when you are planning one. Choosing to have a child with your partner is a major decision and you might not be ready for it yet. You might never want a child ever and that’s cool too.


With a transsexual female, you do not have to worry about the hazards of unwanted pregnancy as she does not have a uterus, and therefore, she can’t conceive. With a cis woman, unwanted pregnancy is always this danger lurking in the background; no matter how careful you are or whatever precautions you take.


Many a time such unwanted pregnancies can lead to even forced marriages. These marriages are forced because you were just in the process of knowing that person. Marriage was nowhere on your mind or her mind but an unwanted pregnancy popped up and you had no option other than getting hitched.


Dating a transsexual female will save you from that kind of scenario. When you are with someone without any fear or unwanted pressure, it’s even better for your relationship. You can be totally honest with each other and let your relationship grow with time. And after all, that, if it does reach that level where the two of you do want to get married, it will be totally worth it. You are choosing to get married because of love and not due to an unwanted pregnancy.



She is Emotionally Stable


The emotional stability of both partners is a very important component of any relationship. And in this department again, the transsexual female has an edge over her cis counterpart.


Being a transsexual woman, she has been dealing with prejudice, social discrimination, and outright bigotry all her life. And if despite all that, she has managed to live her life positively and well, it means that her emotional stability is rock solid.


An emotionally fragile person is a burden on their partner. There are people who get upset over the most inconsequential of things. Dealing with such a person and their day-to-day drama can get too much for anyone. But your transsexual female is so emotionally stable that she can handle your tantrums as well and teach you a lesson or two about emotional stability.

     

 

     

 


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