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In the modern world, dating has become literally a big deal. There is so much competition for guys out there that they probably consider giving up the idea of finding the love of their life. Because of the overwhelming amount of attention they get, cis women throw off so much attitude that it gets almost impossible for any man to meet their expectations. But if the guys just looked a little bit elsewhere, life can get so much easier for them. That is, they should consider dating a transgender woman.

There is still not so much awareness around trans girl dating though. If men only realized dating a beautiful transgender woman could be a far better experience that dating an arrogant, stuck up cis woman with average looks, life for them could be so much better. A transgender woman is truly unique and beautiful. She exudes a completely different level of femininity and sensuality. Her aura is infectious.

You can easily start dating a transgender woman through trans dating apps. There are many such sites available. You can get registered on a dating site for transgender woman and look for profiles that interest you.

If you haven’t ever dated a transgender woman before, it is natural that you must be wondering as to why you should date a trans woman. Here are some merits of dating transgender females.

She has a Strong Personality

People with a weak personality are easily swayed whereas those with a strong personality have a certain aura and magnetism about them that everyone looks up to. If you appreciate a partner with a rock-solid personality, then you should consider dating a transgender woman through a trans dating site.

Because of her unique positioning, a transgender woman has gone through such a roller coaster of experiences that she is bound to be strong. It’s the kind of mental strength that a cis woman can only dream of. Transitioning requires enormous amounts of mental energy and willpower. A person who is confused and over-sensitive about everything won’t even dare to go there. But your trans woman is super strong and that’s why she undergoes so much in order to live the life of the beautiful woman that she is. It’s not a life she has got on a platter. She has literally fought for it.

A partner with a strong personality is a blessing in your life. They will keep you safe from unwanted influences and negativity. With your strong and beautiful trans woman by your side, you can be sure that she won’t throw any unnecessary tantrums or create any unwanted drama. She is focused on the relationship and because of her mental strength; she won’t be easily distracted or swayed.

She is Elegant, Witty and Intelligent

Men are very attracted to women who can talk well. Nobody wants to date a woman who looks fabulous but all that just flies out of the window the moment she opens her mouth. Guys love an elegant woman with a well-groomed personality. So, if you want to date that kind of woman whom you can take out to elite and sophisticated places, then trans girl dating is just the ideal thing for you.

According to research, a trans woman is twice as likely to hold a college degree as compared to your average cis woman. When you are with her, the two of you can have engaging conversations about literally anything – be it art, music, literature, films, travel or society. You would be proud of introducing your trans woman to your friends as she can hold witty and intelligent conversations with a group of people as well.

She is Super Gorgeous!

A trans woman is beautiful. And we are not talking about just normal beautiful, she is heavenly beautiful! If you check out the pics of trans women on various transgender dating websites, you would know what I mean! Being a woman is not a mere accident for her. She has literally fought for her femininity and womanhood. And that’s why she feels it way more passionately and intensely than any cis woman. And that aura of femininity radiates from her beautiful face as well as her hot, well-sculpted body.

A transgender woman goes to great lengths to groom herself well. She is always well dressed and knows how to use makeup to accentuate the beauty of her facial features. You would never find a trans woman dressed up slovenly for a date. If you dating a trans girl, you can be assured that she would have made every possible effort to make the occasion special. In planning for the date, she would create a unique look for everything – her dress, footwear, hairstyle, makeup. If you like things a bit dreamy and dramatic, then she would meet you with a super feminine sequined dress, super dreamy curls and a face with striking fantasy makeup.

Sex will be Great

Physical love is the most important aspect of a relationship, at least in its early stages. As long as things are great in bed, all other problems and issues can be overlooked or solved. If you date a transgender woman, you can be assured that your sex life will be a roller coaster ride, in a good way that is.

A transgender female has a stunningly well-proportioned body with curves that can put even the most sensual and erotic of sculptures to shame. She is sensuality personified from head to toe. She has a firm, younger and perkier breasts; a combination that can make any guy crazy and increase the pleasure of sexual experience manifold.

The body of a cis-woman age with time. Her breasts begin to sag, fat begins to accumulate on her tummy and her figure just isn’t the same anymore. In the case of a trans woman, the phenomenon is just the opposite. A transgender woman gets hotter with time. If you started dating her in the early stages of transitioning, you would realize how amazingly hot she is getting with the passage of time! If you are dating a transgender woman pre-op, then you even have the chance of great anal intercourse.

No fear of Unwanted Pregnancies

Gone are the days when true love was synonymous with motherhood and babies. Society has indeed come a long way from there. Many couples, even if they are married, choose not to have children at all. Then, the whole idea of having to marry somebody just because of an accidental pregnancy just doesn’t seem right. But in the heterosexual world, there is a lot of pressure on guys to marry the woman if she gets pregnant by chance. But if you are dating a transgender woman through a transgender dating site, you would face no such pressure.

A trans woman doesn’t have a uterus and therefore she can’t conceive. Therefore, as a guy, you don’t have to constantly worry about the probability of her getting pregnant. It’s also good for the relationship. Both the partners can actually focus on making their relationship better and stronger with time as these other issues are not there.

A heterosexual relationship is literally bogged down by the constant fear of pregnancy and babies. No matter how much precaution a guy takes, a cis woman can still get pregnant. This often leads to forced and unhappy marriages. A marriage will only succeed if the people involved are in it for the sake of love. If two people are marrying out of compulsion, then the whole thing will just become a drag.

Lack of fear of unwanted pregnancies can make you and your trans girlfriend pursue a beautiful, emotionally fulfilling and truly wonderful relationship. And if one fine day, the two of you decide to get married, it will be only because of love. And that is totally worth it.

She is Positive and Inspirational

A positive and inspiring partner is a gift for life. When you wake up next to a positive person every morning, you look forward to each day with new vigour and enthusiasm. You want to conquer the whole world. If you would like to date somebody with that super positive aura, a trans woman is just the right partner for you.

She has undergone so much in her life. A transgender woman has battled societal apathy, discrimination and even verbal abuse. And she has survived all that with flying colours. Every problem she has faced has made her even more beautiful and positive. People like that are a treasure to keep for life. The little problems that you keep nagging about are nothing in comparison to what she has faced. And yet she is brimming with life and energy. This would completely change your perspective on life.

Your trans woman would not just be your lover but your best friend, philosopher and guide. She would inspire you to constantly try something new and to achieve new heights in your professional life.

She is Emotionally Stable

A trans woman is the epitome of emotional stability. She has undergone so much in life that she has no time for emotional drama or frivolousness. If you are dating a transgender woman through any of the transgender dating sites, you can be well assured that her mind will be free of any insecurities, jealousies and doubts that cis women face on a day-to-day basis.

The emotional stability of both partners is very important for a relationship. If two people are emotionally volatile and unstable, they would be picking fights all the time over the smallest and silliest of things. A trans woman is so emotionally mature that your relationship would never suffer because of these petty issues.

A long-distance relationship is always a tricky proposition. Spending time together is crucial for strengthening the relationship, at least during the early stages. A long-distance relationship in such a scenario can cause confusion, agony and even a feeling of detachment from your partner. Even in transgender dating, a long-distance relationship has its own challenges.

But that doesn’t mean these challenges cannot be overcome. If the two of you are genuinely in love, you can together overcome these temporary obstacles. The important thing is for you to stay constantly connected despite the distance and to find new ways and means to express your love and desire for each other.

In trans dating, if a long-distance relationship stands the test of time, it is a beautiful feeling. It means that the two of you are really meant for each other. But that doesn’t mean you can leave the success of your long-distance relationship to destiny or fate. The two of you have to constantly work on it and first of all convince yourself that despite the distance, you are going to make it work.

Here are a few tips that can help you make your long-distance relationship a success despite the distance.

Communicate with your Partner Before you Leave

In transsexual dating, one of the scenarios is that the two of you were located in one place when you started dating. But then for work commitments or other reasons, one of you had to relocate to some other city. Now here is the catch. If it’s so important for you to move to another city, you have to discuss it with your partner before you leave.

The two of you are in a relationship that involves commitment and mutual trust. You can’t just casually inform your partner that you got to go because of so and so reason and just leave. You got to sit down and have a proper talk with your transgender partner. The two of you need to be on the same wavelength as far as your relocation plans are concerned. It is only after your partner is convinced that you should leave.

Trust is the building block of any relationship. And for a long-distance relationship, it becomes even more important since the two of you won’t be seeing each other for a long time. So, at the beginning of such a relationship, when either of you has to move elsewhere for whatever reason, it is very important that your partner supports you in this decision.

If you just leave without informing them properly or if they do not agree with this new structure of the relationship, then it will cause trouble in your relationship eventually.

Make Time for Each Other

This is the most important aspect of a long-distance relationship. In long-distance trans dating, the two of you have to be super committed towards communicating regularly. Distance is only an impediment as far as face-to-face communication is concerned but the two of you should be constantly in touch through phone and various social media platforms like WhatsApp, Instagram, etc.

Make it a point to talk to each other over the phone or Skype or any other live chat service at least once a day. If you have time to shower and have your meals and exercise and relax a bit, then you cannot be short of time to communicate with the love of your life. Even if you are super busy, talk to your partner before you hit the bed.

Try to stay in touch through cute little messages and emoticons even during the day. Even a simple ‘Hi baby, I miss you’ message on WhatsApp will bring a sweet and alluring smile on the face of your partner. Give them virtual hugs whenever you can. Ask them how their day is going. If your partner is working on an important project, they are super excited about, ask them how the project is progressing.

A long-distance transgender dating or relationship can be a blessing in disguise if you are constantly creating time for your partner, despite the distance. It shows them that you genuinely care for them and your love is real. Lovers talk about touching and plucking the moon and the stars to make the love of their life happy but if you manage to touch the heart of your transgender lover, they will be over the moon. If you take interest in their dreams, ambitions and goals on a day-to-day basis, they will feel you really value them in a more wholesome sort of a way.

And finally, there can never be a lack of time to kiss your lover virtually and say to them ‘I Love You’.

Use Technology to Make Your Communication Special

Lovers these days have the added advantage of technology! In long-distance trans dating, you should well utilize these exciting modes of communication. Gone are those days when being in a long-distance relationship meant you could at best talk over the phone or send love-soaked letters and greeting cards to your partners by post. Now with the help of technology, the two of you have the chance to talk to each other live, just like you would if you met face to face.

With new-age platforms like zoom, you could have a fabulous live dating experience! Set up your room with stunning lights, décor and some candlelight to add to the effect. Bring in some wine or champagne, get dressed to kill and then have a live date session with your lover through Zoom. Ask your lover to recreate a similar kind of setting and the two of you can have a fantastic time together, despite the distance.

You can even use other platforms like Skype to video call each other. And it doesn’t have to be live chatting all the time. If you went out with friends and would like to show off your party outfit to your transgender lover, just create a small video and send it to them! Use technology to surprise your lover every now and then. Send them flirty messages and pictures on trans dating apps when they are least expecting those. Use technology to keep the romance and fun in your relationship.

You need to have a Roadmap for Ending the Distance

For a long-distance relationship to survive there has to be light at the end of the tunnel. In long-distance transsexual dating, the partners need to have some sort of an understanding between themselves regarding when the distance will end.

The ideal way of going about it is to fix a timeline for getting back together when one of the partners is planning to leave. They have to shift to another town or city for some unavoidable reasons and that is ok. But it has to be clear that the long-distance cannot be there for an eternity. In a long-distance transgender relationship, the two of you got to sit together and agree upon a concrete timeline for ending the distance before either of you leaves.

And then during a long-distance relationship, the two of you need to constantly discuss your future plans together. How much time is left before you guys can be physically together? Sometimes circumstances change after a person has shifted to another city and there can be some fluctuation in the timeline for getting together that you had previously decided. That is ok too. But the important thing is the two of you should be equally focused on getting back together after a certain point in time.

A major reason behind the failure of long-distance relationships is the change in peoples’ priorities once they leave. If your partner is constantly wishy-washy about their plans to get together and they do not want to commit to any specific timeline, then it is not good for the relationship. After all, people put up with long-distance and lack physical intimacy only because of the hope of being together with the love of their life soon. Nobody wants their relationship to be long-distance forever!

So, for long-distance transsexual relationship to succeed, it is very important that your future plans are always a part of your conversation. You need to have a concrete vision with regard to your future life together and a proper timeline to execute it. And you need to keep reminding each other about that vision and keep a tab on the efforts they are making to get back. This would make the relationship more real and beautiful as you are taking practical steps to end the distance. Otherwise, it is like chasing thin air. Without any future in sight, even the most optimistic person can lose hope. So, it is important for you and your transgender love to lay out the future roadmap for ending the distance in a long-distance relationship.

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Trust is the most important aspect of any relationship. Mutual trust can make a relationship beautiful and meaningful over time but the lack of it can make any romantic association go down the winding path. A trans woman is a special creature in the sense that her trust has been betrayed multiple times. A cis woman might have had it rough as well in relationships. But for a trans woman, it’s a different ball game altogether. Her life story is full of mental and psychological cuts and bruises. It’s not just her ex-lovers though who have broken her trust or hurt her badly. She has to face the hatred and censure of the entire society because of her identity. Her friends, neighbours, family, all have hurt her sensibilities at a certain point in time.

So, if you have just started dating her through a trans girl dating site or a transsexual dating site, you got to realize that a slow and steady path is just the right approach. Someone who wants to win the love and trust of a trans woman has to gently heal all her past wounds. And then she would slowly but surreptitiously transform into a magical, fairy-like creature, her eyes shining with love for her partner. Trans woman dating is certainly not easy but it’s a wonderful experience. She is a super-strong creature. And that’s a part of her appeal. She has been hurt and wronged so many times and yet, she hasn’t lost her faith in the possibility of love. She is scared, traumatized and a bit unsure maybe, but she still looks for love everywhere. And once you build that level of trust with her, she would reciprocate your love with the utmost sincerity and devotion.

You seemed to have met the woman of your life through a transgender dating site and now you just want to take things forward. This article lists out a couple of points that would help you understand how to go about establishing trust in trans woman dating and relationships.

Be Committed to Your Trans Woman

Commitment doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to go out of your way to prove something. It just means that one has to treat their partner with utmost dignity and respect. It doesn’t have to be larger than life gestures. On the contrary, it is the little things that matter most. When you plan out a date with your trans woman, make it a point to be always punctual or even before time. Do discuss the future of your relationship with her every now and then. Tell her about your plans for the future. This will instill a level of trust and confidence in her that you see the relationship as something serious and long term.

Show genuine interest in her life. Listen to her attentively when she tells you excitedly about her hobbies and achievements. And just be there for her when she tells you all about her fears and insecurities. Love is not just about the nice things, after all. It is about sharing everything together and that includes both the good and the bad. Once your trans woman truly feels that you care for her from the core of your heart, she will give you her trust lovingly and willingly.

Stay Faithful to Her

Loyalty is an important aspect of any relationship. Even if you are dating a cis woman, she would expect you to be loyal and faithful.  She would obviously want that as her boyfriend, your romantic interests are reserved exclusively for her. It’s just the same in trans girl dating. You have to be faithful to your trans woman partner. And once she becomes sure of your exclusive commitment and affection for her, winning her trust won’t be difficult.

On the contrary, if you are routinely unfaithful to her and frequently lie in order to cover up your mistakes, all hell will break loose. A trans woman is a super intuitive creature. Because of her past experiences, she has learnt the art of seeing through people and their pretences. So, you cannot bluff her for long. A trans woman is a beautiful creature inside out. She is an embodiment of femininity and love. So, if you are faithful to her and treat your relationship with the sincerity and devotion it so deserves, she will begin to trust you eventually.

Do Give Her Some Personal Space

Two people in a relationship spend a lot of time together. And that is so important for taking the relationship forward. But we all are individuals at the end of the day. In trans girl dating, you have to realize that your trans woman also has her own set of interests and ideas to pursue. So, you shouldn’t make her feel as if you are infringing on her personal space. Everybody has a sense of personal space. Some people like to be left alone when they are working on something. Others need some time by themselves every now and then just to recharge their creative and emotional energies. So, you have to respect that personal space of your trans woman and just let her be. Because if she feels like you are on her nerves all the time, she is just going to freak out. And this is not good news from the point of view of winning her trust.

Giving somebody personal space doesn’t just translate into leaving them alone when they want to be left alone. It also implies that you don’t constantly pester them to speak up on things they don’t want to talk about. Maybe you are just literally dying to know about her views on something. But perhaps she is in a different time frame. So don’t get obsessive and irritate her. Just give her some space.

In trans woman dating or any kind of dating, giving the partner some space can be super beneficial for the relationship in long run. In such a relationship, there is a greater degree of mutual understanding and respect. Also, there are no insecurities and jealousies. Insecurities crop up when you try to own the other person all the time. But if you and your trans woman realize and appreciate the fact that you two also have a life outside of your relationship, then your love and commitment get even stronger.

Be Honest in Your Intentions

Honesty is the building block of any relationship. When you’ve met somebody through a trans dating site or a transgender dating app and want to take things forward, it’s obvious that they want to figure out if your intentions are genuine. Your trans woman wants to know if you are looking for a serious long-term relationship or just a fling. Your interest in her has to be genuine. If you are just interested in her because of her looks or because you are fascinated by the fact that she is trans, she will see through your pretences right away. You cannot treat her like a fetish. Only if you are genuinely interested in her as a woman, she will reciprocate your interest and trust you.

So even as you are talking to a trans woman through a trans woman dating site or a trans dating app, just ask yourself this honest question. Are you genuinely interested in dating her or are you just curious about her identity? If you are confused about what you actually want, it’s better to back out or go real slow than hurt the other person. A trans woman has a history of guys being disrespectful to her or treating her as some kind of fetish. So please don’t jump onto that bandwagon. Take things forward only if you are honestly interested in knowing her as a person.

It’s just liked any other relationship. The woman you are dating wants to be valued for what she is and not for her looks, money, position or status. With a trans woman, there is an added possibility that some guys just want to date her because they want to know how it is like to be with a trans woman. That is just rude and disrespectful. She is a woman like any other, not an object of enquiry. So, in trans woman dating, the most important step towards winning the trust of your partner is that you have to be absolutely honest in your intentions.

You Got to Value Your Relationship

Mutual trust comes through only when both partners truly value their relationship. Valuing a relationship doesn’t mean that you try to impress your trans woman with sweet and romantic words day and night that how much you love her and all that. Sweet words come to nothing unless they are aided by concrete action. You have to invest time and energy in your relationship. Your trans woman has to get the feeling that she is a priority for you. Only then will she give you her love and trust.

In trans girl dating or trans woman dating, valuing a relationship means that you are constantly attentive towards the needs and desires of your partner. It means that you are always making new and exciting plans to make them happy, to bring a smile to their face. Valuing your trans woman means that it’s not a big deal for you to take a day off work and be by her side when she is not feeling well. Surprise her every now and then with a gift, chocolates, flowers or with tickets for her favourite movie. It isn’t about how much money you spend. It’s about the kind of time you are investing in your relationship and the effort you are making to make your trans woman feel special and loved.

Love is not rocket science. If you trans woman feels truly loved and valued, then she will certainly give you her trust and love with all her heart.

So, you have joined a transgender dating site or a transgender dating app and are looking forward to dating a gorgeous trans woman. You have probably started talking to a few and are trying to figure out the one who could end up as your soulmate! Sounds good but before you take the plunge, you got to keep in mind a few basics of dating a transgender woman.

In trans girl dating or trans woman dating, you have to adhere to certain basic principles. There are some things that you should do proactively while there are others that you should totally avoid. There is no rulebook as such but these are really just pointing from the old school book of gentlemanly code of conduct. It is like the rules you follow while dating a cis woman. In trans woman dating, you have to stick to those rules even more religiously because she has had quite a rough past already; dealing with societal prejudices during transitioning has not been easy for her. So, if you have chosen to date her, she needs your full support and that includes always being by her side, no matter what.

One has to also understand the practical nature of the situation. Dating a trans woman is like nurturing a rose, which is beautiful and divine but you have to deal with the thorns that come with it. You got to realize that your friends and family might not even accept your relationship. But that shouldn’t deter you from being with her. If you love her with all your heart and soul, then nothing should stop you from being together.

Below are listed some points that would equip you with a basic roadmap with regard to the things you should do while dating a trans woman and things and scenarios you should avoid. Whether you’ve met her through a trans dating site or a transgender dating app, following these rules would be good for your relationship.

DOS

Think through your Decision before Taking the Plunge

This is the most important aspect of dating a transgender woman. Before you commit to her, you have to be sure in your mind that you really want to date her. Please don’t take the plunge half-heartedly. Take your time and think through your decision. One has to realize that the journey of dating a trans woman will be full of societal apathy and downright disapproval. You have to be strong enough to deal with all that. Your own family might desert you at a certain point in time. Unfortunately, that is the kind of stigma attached to dating a transgender person. So, you have to tell yourself that you will muster up the courage and willpower to overcome all these obstacles.

Also, you have to sort out your own prejudices with regard to a trans woman. You have to accept the fact that she is a woman like any other and dating her won’t make you gay. It is important to be at peace with one’s own decision before taking the final plunge and joining a trans dating app or a trans dating site.

Take Good Care of your Physical and Mental Self

A trans woman is a beauty personified. She is a super well-groomed Goddess! It’s not easy to impress her. Only a guy who takes great care of his physical and mental being is capable of melting her heart. So, while dating a trans woman, just follow the basic principles of good overall grooming. Maintain personal hygiene, dress well and take care of your hair, skin and nails. Always make sure you smell nice, body odour can be a put off for any woman, trans or cis.

You have to also take good care of your physical health. Have some kind of a regular exercise routine. Hit the gym if you need to. When you’ve just started dating a trans woman through a trans girl dating site or a ts dating app, it’s tempting to make way too much effort in dressing up and go overboard. Resist that urge. You want to dress smart and chic but in a way that also seems effortless and casual. You don’t want to be meeting her on a date all dressed up like you were going to attend a wedding party!

Last but not the least, it is important to take care of your mental wellbeing. When your mind is at peace, your face shows it. A handsome face that glows with vitality and the aura of positivity speaks of an evolved and peaceful mind. Practice yoga and meditation. Relax yourself through regular massages or a spa session. Just make sure to unwind once in a while and give rest to your mind. This will ensure that when you finally meet your trans woman on that dream date, you will surely be at your best.

Compliment her Frequently

A trans woman walks that extra mile when it comes to taking care of her looks and appearance. She is always super well-groomed. You would never find her turn up slovenly for a date. Her dressing sense is stylish, chic and feminine. She has mastered the art of applying makeup.

She is well-read and has above average communication skills. Your trans woman is a thinking lady and she has an opinion on issues around her. She has worked hard to perfect her body and mind. So, she surely deserves a heartfelt compliment every now and then. Not that she needs it but hearing those great words from her man, again and again, would reassure her of his love and care.
 

You Have to Stand Up for Her.

This is the most important aspect of your relationship with a transgender woman. As the adage goes, “Actions Speak Louder than Words’. No matter how much you compliment her or give her flowers or gifts, what matters the most is your support to her in difficult times.

And a trans woman’s life is full of difficult times. So, you have to be tough enough to confront your family, friends and society at large for the sake of your love. Your family might say the most inappropriate of things about her. In such a scenario, it’s your duty to stand by her and tell your family firmly that they cannot insult the love of your life.

While you are dating her, it is possible that your social life might just go all haywire. Your friends might not want to hang out with you as earlier. It is possible that they avoid you or desert you completely. You still have to be courageous and never leave her side.

Once you manage to stand with her through thick and thin, your friends and family will also understand that they can’t separate the two of you and will eventually accept your relationship. But till then, you just have to keep going and support your trans lady love in every possible way.

DONT'S

Do Not Treat Her as a Fetish

When you have just started dating her through a transgender dating site or a transsexual dating site, you have to be very careful about the way you treat her. Many straight guys want to date a trans woman only because they are curious about her identity and they want to experience how it is like to date a trans woman. You should never date a trans woman with that kind of motive. A guy has to understand that she is a woman like any other and not some kind of exotic kink or fetish to satiate your perversion.

In trans girl dating or trans woman dating, there are some boundaries that have to be always respected. When you are out with her on the first date, don’t bombard her with questions pertaining to her past life or ask her bluntly what organs she has. This is rude and disrespectful. A trans woman is a lady of dignity. If you treat her like this on your first date, chances are she is never going to see you again.

And it’s not just about the first date. Whenever you go out with her, treat her like you would any other woman. Connect with her at an individual level, ask her about her hobbies, interests, what she likes to read, whether she enjoys watching movies or listening to music, that kind of stuff.  

Once your relationship progresses to a certain level, it’s possible that she herself opens up about her past life and experiences. But that’s totally her call. You have no right to force her to do so. Just respect certain boundaries and you will definitely win her trust and love in due course of time.

Don’t Make Her Feel Uncomfortable

Many guys have a habit of treating a woman like a commodity. And when it comes to trans woman, they cross all boundaries of decorum and decency as they think it’s alright to say and do anything to her because she is trans. If you have met someone through a transgender dating app or a trans dating site and you treat them like this, chances are they would never want to see you again.

No matter how gorgeous her body is or how promising her assets look, you have no right to treat a trans woman as a mere commodity for your physical pleasure and gratification. Do not even talk about the physical aspect of love during the first couple of dates. You would just come across as creepy and desperate if you insist on that during the early stages of your dating. As and when she is comfortable with you, things will probably happen. But physical pleasure can’t be your ulterior motive in wanting to date her. Get to know her as a person. That is primary and everything else comes after that.

Respect certain boundaries. Don’t try to strike an amorous conversation with her. If she is feeling uncomfortable, just change the topic right away. Only if you treat a trans woman with dignity and respect, you can be hopeful of winning her love and trust.

Emotional issues can crop up in any relationship. And if not resolved at the right time, these can ruin even the best of love stories. You have met the partner of your dreams through a transgender dating site or a transgender dating app. You look forward to the new chapter of your life. But this is only half the battle won. As you take your relationship forward, it gets very important to look out for any emotional issues that can potentially jeopardize your relationship.

Emotional issues in a transgender relationship don’t have a eureka moment! They just appear all of a sudden, out of nowhere. Not everybody is emotionally stable. In fact, most people struggle with some kind of emotional peculiarity. For example, some people are just too insecure about their looks all the time, there are others who smell a conspiracy behind literally everything and there are some who can be so self-obsessed that they tend to ignore their partner.

Whether you have met somebody through a transgender dating app or a transgender dating site, the first step towards resolving any of the emotional issues between you and your partner is to recognize that these issues exist.  These little emotional peculiarities and quirks that exist in every individual become issues over a period of time. But if you pay close attention to these typical behavioural patterns of your partner early on, then you can prevent these from becoming an issue.

After all, the best of relationships is built on a solid foundation of trust and communication. Once you have figured out the emotional issues that come up in your relationship, it is time to work proactively with your partner on resolving them. Here are some important tips that would help you identity existing emotional issues in your relationship and then work towards resolving them.

Dealing with an Emotionally Unstable Partner

Nobody wants to be with an emotionally unstable person. Dating an emotionally unstable person can damage your own mental health. If you have recently started dating someone you met through a trans dating site and you have realized that they have frequent mood swings, they get upset suddenly for no visible reason and could even get angry and abusive out of the blue, then you are dealing with an emotionally unstable person.

Well of course, when you are in love with someone, then you just want to ignore the nagging aspect of their behaviour and focus on positive things instead. After all, nobody wants to break their relationship just because of a particular personality trait of their partner.  So, to begin with, you should try and figure out ways to deal with your partner’s emotional instability. If you observe their behaviour closely, you might be able to figure out a pattern. Are there some specific things or topics that upset them? If you are lucky, avoiding those specific things might help resolve the issue altogether. But their emotional instability might be symptomatic of deep-seated unhappiness with their own self and what they have achieved in life. So, you can try and connect them with their positive side. Help them focus on their goals and ambitions. Make them feel loved and extra special. Well, this is true of any relationship but is especially applicable for people who have emotional problems due to pre-existing baggage. It could be their failed past relationships, troubled childhood, anything.  But love and nurturing can heal their wounds. And their emotional state would probably get more stable.

However, even after trying all this, if you still face problems and their emotional instability is becoming a source of concern for you and hindering your day-to-day life, you have to communicate this to them. The two of you have to talk it out. Everybody tries their best to maintain a relationship. But it cannot be at the cost of your mental peace.

Dealing with an Overtly Critical Partner

Mutual respect is very important for a relationship. And that involves being supportive of each other’s work and achievements.  But there are people whose favourite hobby seems to be no holds barred criticism and such people can be toxic for a relationship.

You started dating somebody through a trans dating site or a transgender dating app. And the two of you ended in a relationship. That’s definitely some great news! But if your partner constantly finds faults with everything you do and the way you, do it, then that’s not cool. We spend the maximum time with the person we are romantically involved with. So, it becomes even more important that our partner has a positive outlook towards our goals and achievements.

An overly critical partner can totally destroy one’s self-esteem. It can make a person doubtful about everything they do and in the worst-case scenario; they can even end up in depression. So as a rule of thumb, you should avoid dating someone who has a habit of commenting negatively on everything you do. Such people are plain toxic. If a person is emotionally unstable, you can still heal them with love. But a partner who finds faults in everything you do is most probably manipulative and toxic. They might just end up damaging you. So, it’s not worth the risk. In fact, a golden rule to follow is to be super cautious about self-obsessed people the moment you start chatting with prospective love interests through a transgender dating site or a transsexual dating app.

However, it is still very important to make efforts to resolve this issue. Try to talk it out with your partner. Communicate your concerns to them in a straightforward manner. A loving and caring partner will definitely try to make amends in their behaviour once they realize it’s not good for your emotional health. Try to understand their perspective as well. Maybe, they are just trying to motivate you to be your best version. You have to then tell them politely but firmly that they are going way too overboard with their criticism and that needs to stop. Set boundaries in your relationship. Your partner has to know when to stop. And if they truly value you and love you, they will understand your perspective and change their behaviour.

Dealing with a Self-Obsessed Partner

Now this one can be quite tricky. When you have just started dating someone through a transgender dating app or a transgender dating site, it is obvious that you want to give the maximum time to your newfound relationship. And you expect your partner to do the same. But what if you end up with someone who is way too self-obsessed? That can be damaging for your own self-esteem and for the relationship as well.

So do check out for the red flags early on in the relationship so that these issues can be resolved before it gets too late. If you have a partner who constantly talks about just themselves, their achievements, likes and dislikes, it can get a bit overwhelming. Self-love is good but self-obsession isn’t. When the two of you meet, there is no conversation. There is just this long monologue in which your trans partner is constantly talking about himself/herself and they are treating you like a dummy. When you make some plans, it’s all about their priorities. If they are busy, they will just cancel the plan at the last moment. But if you are busy, you have to adjust. When you are planning out where to go for a date, it’s always his choice. And you just have to agree.  Well, what I am trying to say is that it can be incredibly difficult to be with such a self-obsessed person.

So, you have to just communicate your concerns to your partner. They got to know your identity and self-respect are of utmost importance. The most important thing is for you to evaluate if the two of you are still in love. If someone is truly in love with you, they would not make you feel neglected and sidelined.

Dealing with an Emotionally Weak Person

An emotionally weak partner can be more of a liability than an asset in a relationship. They would constantly nag you with the most inconsequential of things. They would need you repeated reassurance about literally everything. If they had a bad day at work, it will affect them emotionally and they will expect you to get them out of it. If there is some problem at the workplace, they just won’t be able to handle it. They would just completely break down and expect you to get them out of this mess.

If you’ve started dating someone through a transsexual dating site or a transsexual dating app and they happen to fall under this category, then your life can get difficult. Well, emotionally weak people are not really bad people. They are not emotionally unstable either. They are just vulnerable. If they have a loving partner who is also emotionally strong and can protect them from all stress and worry, it can be a great thing for them. But maybe, it’s not a that great thing for you as an emotionally strong partner.

You do have your own life also at the end of the day. You got deadlines to fulfil, goals to accomplish and many other things to do. There are times when you just want to relax with your partner and not constantly having to act like an agony aunt who has to fix all their issues! An emotionally weak person can be mentally and emotionally draining. You don’t want your relationship to resemble babysitting in which your partner is the baby and you the babysitter!

So, if it’s getting too much for you to handle, talk it out with your partner. Set boundaries with them. Make it clear that there is a limit to which you can fix things for them. They have to learn to stand up for their own life and sort it out. If it still doesn’t work out, you could consider seeking the help of a relationship counsellor. You could even consider joining a transgender forum where you can communicate with like-minded people from the trans community and take their advice.
 

Chances are, you want to not simply survive but thrive as a trans guy, both in private and on online dating sites for transgender folks and allies. While there are many tools you need to have in your metaphorical self-care kit, building confidence is chief among them.

What exactly is confidence?

Before we dive into a list of tips and suggestions on how you can build it, we first need to define what we mean when talking about confidence. Self-confidence often overlaps or is used as a synonym for self-esteem or self-efficacy. While there are similarities, it is interesting to note the differences, too:

 – Self-efficacy:

Refers to your belief about your own abilities regarding specific tasks. Self-efficacy basically is the real-life concept that corresponds with the famous Henry Ford quote: “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.”

 – Self-confidence:

Meanwhile, reflects your general belief about how likely you are to fulfill a goal. Your past experiences play a huge role in both self-efficacy and self-confidence, but self-confidence refers to a broader view instead of focusing on specific tasks.

 – Self-esteem:

While often used interchangeably with self-confidence, is quite different from it. Self-esteem reflects your belief in your overall worth as a person. Viewing yourself as a “good guy” is a statement of self-esteem, for instance. In that, it is even broader than self-confidence, and improving your confidence will help your esteem, too.

Obviously, the lines between them are blurry, and there is no linear trajectory you can follow. You may have enough confidence to think you’re capable of learning to make bread, yet at the same time lack self-efficacy and you assume your first attempts will be horrible. And whether or not you can bake a killer loaf, you hopefully still think that you deserve love and happiness.

Why is building confidence essential for FTM trans guys?

Insecurities and self-doubt are core components of ill mental health and poor well-being, so finding ways to improve your confidence will definitely help you.

As a trans guy, whether you identify as FTM, genderqueer, nonbinary butch, or else, building self-confidence can be especially tough. Questioning societal standards and stereotypes of what it means to be “manly” and finding your own way takes a lot of energy, perseverance, and yes, confidence.

So how do you build it? Think of it as a muscle: you need to train it to strengthen it.

Here are several useful tips you can choose from and try for yourself. See what works for you and maintain it until it becomes second-nature to you. Your confidence will never falter again. 

Understand Your Strengths and Weaknesses

Even if the mean voices in your head (or on the internet) want to tell you otherwise, everyone has unique skills, both hard and soft, as well as talents in various areas of your life. Likewise, you will have areas in your life you do not excel at.

While many of these will remain the same after your female-to-male transition, some may have changed. As a rule of thumb, make sure that you know what you are good at and what your weaknesses are. Once you understand these areas, you will have a clearer mental image of yourself and what you will need to improve your self-confidence.

Be a Friend to Yourself

Unfortunately, some FTM trans men are their own worst enemy. It is impossible to build your self-confidence if you are the one constantly putting yourself down. If you want confidence and high self-esteem, you need to foster an attitude of love and acceptance.

When a negative thought arises, ask yourself: “Would I say this to about my best friend to their face?” Catching yourself when your inner voice turns self-deprecating is the first step to stop the habit. Once you notice it, actively work against it. If you think, for example, “I didn’t manage all I wanted to do today, I’m such a loser”, and notice it, tell yourself that you are human and some things take more time than anticipated. You tried, and that’s what’s important.

Remember and Celebrate Your Successes

Please steer clear of grievous mistakes like downplaying your success or only focusing on what you are struggling with. Such an attitude will not help you build self-confidence. Focusing on the negative aspects of your life will only drag you further down. However, if you create a habit of celebrating your successes (no matter how small they are), you will soon feel more confident.

These celebrations can take various forms: taking a walk for yourself, giving yourself a break to enjoy a cup of tea or coffee, spending time with a friend to cheer for your achievement, or simply giving yourself the satisfaction of crossing the item off your to-do list for the day.

Remove Things That Bring You Down

Out of sight, out of mind –  this affects reminders of your shortcomings or of negative experiences as well. Be sure to hide or get rid of items that evoke negative thoughts when you see them.

Beyond the shirt you wore to that horrible breakup, these things can be as varied as mean friends, a job you hate, or a habit you have gotten into. Reflect on the impact these have on your life and eliminate them for good.

Smile At Yourself In The Mirror

Looking at your reflection can go a long way in helping you accept yourself. When you do, be sure to smile. If you do this every day, you will feel happier and more secure in yourself over time due to something called “facial feedback theory”. The expression on your face has been shown to help your brain register and intensify the emotions it perceives on your face.

Improve Your Posture

Just like smiling at yourself, sitting up straighter, or striking a “power pose” has been proven to boost confidence in studies. It might feel awkward at first, but remember that stepping outside your comfort zone is a core component of your journey towards more self-confidence.

Do Not Compare Yourself To Others

Every person is unique. Just because this FTM person achieves a very masculine appearance and maybe has better muscle definition than you does not mean you have ‘failed’ at being FTM. You differ in your genetics, your socio-economic backgrounds, and much more – focus on yourself and don’t measure your progress against that of others. Easier said than done, sure, but so essential to keep in mind.

Take Risks

There is no better way of building self-confidence than taking risks. Taking risks shows – mainly to yourself – that you are confident in yourself and your abilities. If you now think you have to do something scary or dangerous to achieve this, think again: Simply getting out of your comfort zone and trying something new counts as a risk in terms of building self-confidence.

In essence, this point is all about living your life to the fullest. Take a moment to reflect on what you would like to try and do. Learn how to skateboard? Sign up for a transgender dating site? Strike up a conversation with a friendly-looking stranger? Sure, you might find that you do not like the outcome of something you do, but you may forever regret not giving yourself the opportunity to try. Your self-confidence will definitely thank you!

Be Persistent

At the end of the day, there is no miracle cure for low self-confidence. There is no pill you take or action steps you follow once and overnight, you are filled to the brim with confidence. It truly takes time and effort to build up. Therefore, you should be persistent, see mistakes your make as learning opportunities to help you avoid repeating them in the future, and never give up. If you lose sight of the journey, don’t beat yourself up. Life happens, we get busy. Simply get back on track and resume your self-confidence practice.

On a final note, if you are struggling with self-confidence and do not know where to start, find a trusted friend with whom you can share your troubles. Having a strong support system will help you be more confident and give you the foundation you need to begin building confidence on your own.

Get ready for the most fun you’ve had in forever! Once you feel confident enough, it’s time to sign up for an ftm dating site. There are many transgender dating apps out there, and platforms that facilitate online dating for trans women, men, and others have increased. You have ample space to search for other trans singles or trans allies who are looking for a serious relationship.

If chatting with potential dates is outside your comfort zone… treat it as practice for your self-confidence boosting journey! You might find the perfect partner without expecting to. 

Too bad that for most people, connecting with potential partners via ts dating apps or platforms has its limits. Who doesn’t know the feeling when the exciting chatter with a new match or contact gives way to tedious and monotonous discussions of topics you’ve covered again and again? In case you are new to online dating, be prepared to make such experiences.

While chatting online with people you cannot see, communicating only via text messages and emojis, can become boring very quickly due to the nature of the conversation, another risk you face every time you open your ts dating app is the ‘what’ you talk about. Too many times, a lovely and wonderful meeting in the virtual room of a site has devolved into tedious accounts of the respective person’s day. If there were a  rewards or points program that gave you a penny each time someone asks you, after a gap in communication, “How are you?” or “How was your day?”, we would all be millionaires already. 

Don’t misunderstand, though: Sharing details about your day and your life has its place in online dating. How someone replies to “How was your day?” tells you a lot about what this person values in life.

Yet if they say the same thing for three days in a row, or their replies grow shorter by the minute, then you know you have hit boredom territory. 

Since yes, chances are high that your date or chatting partner also shares this sense of listlessness while engaging with you. If you don’t act now, you might ruin what could have been the start of a great romantic journey for yourself. Therefore, you have to ensure that you keep every online date you have as memorable and fun as possible, both for your sake and your partner’s.

Easier said than done, however. There is a certain degree of creativity needed in order to spice up your conversations, especially if you haven’t seen the hide nor hair of the person you are talking to. And while you might consider yourself quite the open-minded, flexible person who could excel at an improv class if these were still a thing (at least in person), you might eventually run out of ideas as well.

This is why we have gathered a list of tips that can help you turn those monotonous conversations into memorable and delightful moments of the budding romance.

Tips on how to get creative with trans dating online:

– Share meaningful details

When the inevitable question of “How are you?” or “How was your day?” arrives in your inbox, consider one-word replies banned for life. Think about the reasons instead:  Why do you want to say you’re fine? Why was your day just okay, as opposed to great or wonderful? Add these tidbits to your answer. Being honest will motivate your online dating partner to reply in kind.

– Speaking of honesty: be truthful

You signed up for this transgender dating app or this trans dating site to find a real connection and long-term romantic partnership. Leave the posing and flexing for hook-up culture. Admit to driving an ancient car because it is more fiscally responsible. Own your career trajectory, wherever it has led. Share your struggles with your identity (especially on dating sites for transgender women, men, and other folks). Only if you are honest will you find people who share your values and outlook on life, which is the basis for a successful relationship.

– Ask questions

Even if you are nervous or unsure if it is okay with the other person to simply pose questions, this will help get conversations going. Most people love talking about themselves, so seize that to your advantage. Think about what you would most like to know and start with that.

– Think of new topics to talk about

Yes, this might be a no-brainer, but all too often, online chats are centered on just telling each other what you have done for the day. If you go for this strategy every time, both you and your date are going to lose interest soon enough. So off you go! Find new topics that are interesting enough to help you talk with your date at length and with vibrancy. The first and best place to start is, of course, the other person’s profile. Check out their interests and hobbies. If none are listed, put on your detective hat and inspect the photos they uploaded. Look for the context, and ask about it.

– Use outside resources

Once you have exhausted the new topics you thought about, there is nothing wrong with involving outside help. This can come in the form of a fun news article or blog post that caught your eye, or simply a trailer for a new series or the announcement of a new album by a band you or your chatting partner cares about. You will be surprised how such a little gesture can bring you closer together and kick-start a passionate discussion.

– Expand your repertoire

As in, surprise your dates once in a while! Show them something they do not expect to see when you start the chat. It may be a video of you singing their favorite song, or a photo of your pet (or child) delivering a thoughtful or funny message. By sprinkling in surprises into your online dating chats, your potential partners will always look forward to receiving a notification that they have a new message. It might also, in turn, inspire them to reply in kind and think of surprises for you.

– Embrace your inner child

Not necessarily by talking about your childhood interests (although that can be a fascinating topic all on its own), but by being silly together. Yes, even when you are only conversing online you can have fun with antics and banter. You can post photos of yourself wearing crazy headpieces and costumes. You can play games as if you are together. You can compete with each other about who can tell or find the funnier jokes. Do not think that, just because finding love online is a serious topic,  that you need to stay ‘on brand’ with that tone all throughout your online dating experience.

– Go beyond simple chatting

Of course, you will want to limit your online dates to messaging or the occasional voice message at the beginning. Yet once you are comfortable and, most importantly, have established a foundation of trust with the other person, make use of the many opportunities that technology has already developed. Hop on a video call – or plan on for a time that fits both you and your date’s schedules – and allow your match to hear your voice and see your face. This would help you carry on conversations for a long time without becoming easily tired of having to type everything you want to say. Needless to say, this also opens up your dates to new possibilities, like a shared dinner over video chat or a game you both enjoy.

– Flirt!

Seriously, get that charm on and use it to your advantage. Only if that is your talent, though. Awkward moments are inevitable, but you don’t need to ask for them. As an alternative, simply be your nicest self. Respect the other person and show you appreciate them taking the time to engage with you.

As you can see, there are so many ways through which you can improve your experience on ts dating sites. You do not have to limit yourself just because the nature of online dating has you taking through a keyboard without a visual of the other person. Be creative and let your mind rule over your physical boundaries.

But hang on… how do you know what is the right strategy to use? 

A valid question, the answer to which depends on the respective situation. Think about how your date engages with you and determine which vibe you are getting from them. Serious or playful? Cheery or restrained? This can give you an idea of how to start being more creative with online dating. Once you have begun, do not be afraid to experiment. Try out different approaches and see how your potential partner reacts. This will help you practice, give you more insight into the person you are communicating with, and help filter out those who definitely don’t fit your expectations. 

And hey, if you have exhausted all options and are at the end of your list of ideas, it might be time to genuinely take the experience offline! Sure, that’s another thing that is so easily said but poses challenges when it comes to execution. But if you apply the same creativity to this step, you will certainly find a way that fits both your and your date’s lives and personalities.

You are finally close to living your life as a trans woman. And you are probably even close to joining a trans woman dating site or a transgender dating site. Just imagining what it would be like to live in the skin of somebody you’ve always believed you are can be such an exhilarating experience. For a trans woman living out her life and identity, it can be a fantasy meets reality kind of situation. And yet, this is just the beginning. There are so many things to learn about feminine sartorial choices and grooming.

It is obvious that all these things are new to her as a trans woman. Her life till now has been completely different so the whole thing about having to switch over to an uber-feminine identity can be a bit too overwhelming. This constant pressure to be ultra-feminine can literally drive her crazy. So it’s important that as a trans woman, she finds her unique point of balance, in accordance with her personality and distinct beauty.

In order to live out your life as a trans woman, you need to have a basic know-how of feminine fashion and beauty etiquette. You would learn more as you go along but it’s important to get equipped with the basics. This article lists out a few tips that will definitely help you in your journey towards embracing womanhood in all its feminine glory!

Dress According to Your Personality and Body Type

We all live in a rather complex world where everyone is trying to copy each other. Especially when it comes to fashion, there is a lot of peer pressure to embrace trends and look a certain way. While it is very important to keep an eye out for all the latest trends in female clothing, you should never feel pressured to dress a certain way. Just remember, the best fashion statement is made by those who create their own statement with clothing.

Shop according to the latest trends but go for styles that complement your body type. If you have great legs, then go for minis and micro-minis that let you flaunt those legs. If you are concerned about your relatively flat chest as a trans woman, then go for dresses and tops that create the illusion of greater cleavage.

Always make sure that your dressing sense goes well with your personality type. Don’t let age define your sartorial choices. Age is an overrated concept! It’s rather a personality that matters. There are 40 plus women who can carry miniskirts and shorts gorgeously. And there are 20 plus women who would feel more comfortable in trousers and long formal shirts. What dresses would look good on you is all about your personality and aura as a trans woman! Just remember that when you finally begin to date someone through a transgender dating app or a trans dating site, they will be impressed not as much by your fashion choices as they will be by how you carry those choices.

Go for Makeup Tricks that Make your Face more Feminine

Now, the approach to makeup a trans woman should follow is actually quite different from the one a cis woman follows. Cis women actually use makeup to give their faces a more chiselled appearance. In the case of a trans woman, the goal of makeup has to be the opposite! Since you already have quite a chiselled face, you want to soften your facial features and want a softer looking fuller, feminine face.

Avoid contouring, especially if you haven’t had hormonal fillers to soften your facial features. Too much contouring would actually draw even more attention to your bone structure, making your face look even more masculine. And you don’t want that. You rather want to tone down that masculine ‘super sculpted’ look. Opt for highlighting to give a softer and feminine feel to your face.

There are multiple makeup tricks you can actually use to play with your facial features to create an illusion of a more feminine, fuller face. You can check out a transgender blog or a transsexual blog with makeup tutorials for trans women. The internet these days is a great resource for such information. You could find so many video tutorials specifically geared towards creating a more feminine facial structure using the art of makeup. And the best part is that in most of these videos, you can see a trans woman working on her face and showing the transformation!

Do Not Overdo Makeup

Makeup is tempting. Let’s accept it! When we walk into a makeup store for a new look, we have this desperate urge to slather on all the eyeshadows and eyeliners and blush and shimmer and what not. But on a serious note, don’t do that! Never overdo your makeup. A minimalistic, nude makeup look that gives you a fresh face is the best for everyday appearance. And for special occasions like a date or parties, you could jazz it up a little bit but don’t go overboard. A guy you’ve just met through a transsexual dating app or a transgender dating site would love to see you in a fresh-faced look when you are out on your first date. No one likes a painted face if they can make out that it’s painted!

The idea of makeup is to subtly highlight the best attributes of your face and make it look softer and feminine. If you overdo your makeup, you would just end up looking like a drag queen. Again, the internet is a great resource for learning the art of applying makeup. Check out a transgender blog or a transsexual blog for makeup advice. Also, interact with other trans women on a trans forum and find out what works best for them.

Do Consider the Advice of Sales Staff

Now, this applies to both makeup and clothes. The sales staff is experienced in terms of figuring out what would look good on a particular person. They can scan your entire physical profile with just a look! So, whenever you walk into a clothing store or a makeup store, do consider the advice of the sales staff.

At a makeup counter, the sales staff would have a better idea of what foundation would suit your skin tone best, how much coverage you need if your skin texture is rough and coarse, things like that. And at a clothing store, they would exactly know what styles would suit your height, personality, skin tone and build.

It’s understandable that you might feel conscious as a trans woman to walk into a store and strike a conversation with the sales representatives, especially if you are in the transitioning phase or haven’t had hormonal treatment yet.

A lot of staff at high-end fashion stores though is sensitive towards transgender people. And they might just tell you about some awesome makeup tricks. So do not shy away from talking to the sales staff. In fact, if you can afford it, get a makeover. That will make you feel confident and super gorgeous.

A Concealer is Must in your Makeup Routine

As a trans woman, concealer is a must-have in your makeup routine. It becomes even more important if you are in between transitioning. A good quality concealer will skilfully hide all those under eye dark circles. It can also conceal your aftershave and all those dicey giveaways of your physical appearance that can make you look masculine, if not properly covered.

When you finally go out on a date with somebody you met through a trans woman dating site or a transgender dating site, you don’t want to spend all your time stressing about how your face is looking and if it is looking feminine enough. So, investment in a good concealer is a must.

Experiment with Your Sartorial Choices

As a trans woman, you obviously face a lot of pressure to look good. But that doesn’t mean you religiously stick to a particular style and play it safe all the time. Fashion is all about experimentation! So don’t be afraid of trying out new styles. A tried and tested approach many women apply is that they go for muted, sober colours when it comes to their wardrobe. Break that monotony. Go for bright reds, pinks, yellows, violet, green, etc. Do not be afraid of trying out colourful lowers. In fact, colourful harem pants, dhoti pants or palazzo will give you an ultra-chic, hippy look.

When deciding what to buy, go for clothes that convey the essence of your personality. Fashion is not about the clothes you wear in order to conform. It is a statement you make in front of society. So, if there is something bold and quirky in that statement, society takes a greater note of your distinct personality. And when you finally go out on that dream date with a guy you met through a transsexual dating app or a transgender dating site, you will see that he can’t just get take eyes off you!