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Many MTF trans woman finds it difficult to fully embrace their femininity. This is understandable given that most of them grew up as men and, therefore, were accustomed to manly behaviors. To fully embrace your femininity as a trans woman, you must constantly strive to be more ladylike. You must think and behave in a womanly fashion, and you must drop any traits that make you look less feminine.


Being feminine is often described by traits such as gentleness, elegance, stylish, and respectful. If you want to get a head start on your journey to embracing femininity, you need to cultivate some of these traits. To make sure you’re on the right path, below are some pitfalls you need to avoid as an MTF trans woman.



Being Too Aggressive


Growing up as a man might have made you a bit aggressive in response to negative situations. However, you need to put a leash on your aggression if you want to be more ladylike. This requires a certain degree of self-discipline. In fact, one of the vital qualities of a woman is self-control. A woman rarely engages in minor fights that could develop into something worse. It is better to walk away with your dignity still intact than to walk away with both your dignity and your face in tatters.



Showing Too Much Skin




Every woman loves to feel pretty and hot. However, even though showing a lot of skin is becoming a fad, you should avoid it as an MTF trans woman By showing too much skin, you risk being trashy rather than classy and hot. As a rule of thumb, only show off one part of your body at a time. When you do choose to reveal a part of yourself, make sure to leave something to the imagination. Showing less skin not only gives you intercourse appeal but also helps you come across as classy.



Not Minding Your Ps and Qs


Embracing your feminine side requires you to be more polite and compassionate as well. You need to be respectful to everyone around you. Using polite words such as “please” and “thank you” will certainly help in this endeavor. Also, if you go to a party, avoid getting drunk or wasted. Being drunk and being ladylike are not compatible.



Not Grooming Yourself Properly


Being feminine requires a certain level of hygiene and grooming. It is recommended that you clean and dress suitably before going out. This includes being physically clean, wearing nice make-up, and dressing fashionably. Dressing stylishly and applying makeup properly will certainly help you give a lasting feminine impression to whomever you meet.




If you are an MTF transgender woman or are in the process of transitioning, looking good is probably high on your list of priorities. In fact, a transgender woman has a reputation for being fashion icons. They push the envelope when it comes to beauty and style. If you are an MTF trans woman and you want to spice up your appearance, one of the best places to start is your face. Your face is the first thing people notice about you, and it plays a major role in how feminine you are perceived. If you want to come across as feminine during a first impression, then you must learn and master the art of applying make-up. Below are some insightful tips that will help you learn to apply makeup appropriately and beautifully.


Research



If you are an MTF trans woman, you have probably made many adjustments during and after the transitioning process. Because you grew up male, there are some things you have to learn now in order to be a woman. Luckily, there is a lot of information available to help you become the female you always dreamed of. To be good at applying make-up, you must be knowledgeable about the ins and outs of it. Researching is a good way to sharpen your knowledge on how to apply make-up. Through researching, you will be able to learn important information, such as what brushes to use, the colors that complement your skin tone, and so much more.


Buy Quality Products


To apply makeup beautifully, you must first have the right tools and products. As mentioned above, you must first make sure that you know which brushes and products are the best. However, you should note that quality products come with a hefty price tag. However, they do not need to cost an arm and a leg either. The key is to invest in some expensive products and choose less expensive options in other areas. Quality brushes are one good set of products to invest in because they offer you more control when you apply your makeup. Quality brushes are also beneficial because they are more durable.


Never Ignore Your Eyebrows


Never make the mistake of leaving your eyebrows ungroomed. However, grooming your eyebrows does not necessarily mean that you pluck them. The point of eyebrows is to frame the face, so cleaning up wayward strands is all that is necessary. You can reshape and tame the rest of them with eyebrow wax.


Plump Lips


it is undeniable that fuller lips are sexier. To have full lips without giving off a intercourse doll vibe, you should line the lips slightly outside the natural line. Next, you should use a lip brush to fill in your lips with your chosen lipstick. Then, powder the lipstick lightly and carefully dust away from the excess. Finally, reapply the lipstick one more time. This ensures that your color will remain vibrant even for a whole night out. If you cannot seem to get the shape you want, visit a professional to learn how to achieve the right look.




There is no cookie-cutter path to become a confident MTF Trans Woman. You will at times find yourself stumbling in your quest to embrace your femininity. When you stumble, find yourself envious, or compare yourself to other cis-woman, know that you are not alone. Many MTF Trans Women fall into the pit of comparing themselves with cis-women.


It is often said that comparison is the death of joy. In fact, it is one of the surest ways to lower your self-esteem. But how do you stop comparing yourself to others? Below are some valuable tips that will offer you an answer.



Realize that Comparing Yourself is Destructive


While comparing yourself to others is fairly normal behaviour, it can be self-destructive in many situations. This is because each person is their own worst critic, meaning when we compare ourselves to others, we tend to judge ourselves more harshly. The first step to stopping this behaviour is by consciously realizing that it is destructive. You may always find cis-women to be pretty, but their beauty has nothing to do with yours. You are beautiful in your own way separate from them.



Focus on Yourself


For you to make positive strides on your journey to embrace your femininity, you should compare yourself only to yourself. When you look at yourself in the mirror, smile more vibrantly than you did yesterday. Think about what you have achieved and all your potential for the future. When you compare yourself to yourself instead of other cis-women, you will be more appreciative of your uniqueness. Additionally, this process helps you feel good about yourself without necessarily having to think less of others.



Be Kind and Polite


The way you treat others often reflects the way you feel about yourself. As a result, showing compassion for yourself allows you to be more compassionate towards others and vice versa. If you tend to criticize other people, you will likely be more critical of yourself. However, if you are kind to others, you will almost certainly be kind to yourself.



Focus on the Positives


Every person has flaws. A guaranteed way to magnify your flaws out of proportion is by comparing yourself with other people. People tend to present the best of themselves to the outside world both in person and on social media. You are likely comparing your flaws with the best the other person has to offer; it is not a fair comparison. Instead of comparing yourself with other people, try to focus on the positive aspects of yourself and your life. Make it a habit to think positively about yourself and others.




People are very good at reading body language. They can tell whether you are confident in yourself or if you are tense and nervous just by looking at you. Additionally, male and female body language has some distinct differences in style. As a result, it is important to know what kind of body language is attractive as an FTM transgender male. If you understand and practice attractive body language techniques, you will not only build your confidence but also enjoy an unrivaled masculine image.



Understanding what constitutes as male body language and knowing the influence it has on other people can be very advantageous, particularly when you are dealing with women. If you want a woman to find you irresistibly attractive, then you must know how to project attractive male body language. However, it is worth mentioning that body language is only part of the equation. You must also develop an attractive personality. Below are some tips that will teach you how to display an attractive male body language.


Have Good Posture


Although it may sound cliché, good posture is the first step to having attractive male body language. As an FTM trans guy, it is important to have a good body posture because it creates an aura of confidence around you. There is nothing more obviously unattractive than terrible posture. Slouching as you walk and sit will only show people that you do not have confidence. On the other hand, walking around with an elevated chest and shoulders back will certainly make you feel and look more attractive and manly.


Slow Down Your Movements


Men that display attractive body language are sure of themselves. Their body movements are often precise and calculated. As an FTM transgender male, you should also try to act like this. You should slow down your body movement, as this makes you look more confident and natural. Try to make your movements smooth and graceful. This does not mean you should walk like a tortoise. It simply means avoiding running around like a headless chicken.


Eye Contact


A key aspect of good body language for both men and women is eye contact. When conversing with other people, proper eye contact is one of the main things they will immediately notice. To be an alpha male, you need to know how to maintain proper eye contact with those you are talking with. Additionally, this will certainly get you more points when conversing with women. Looking down or averting your eyes when conversing with a lady will reveal a lack of confidence. On the other hand, never blinking or holding eye contact for too long can make your partner feel uncomfortable. You should learn the difference between staring and maintaining proper eye contact. Coupled with a smile, good eye contact will help you project attractive male body language.






It is said that women often have some difficulty when it comes to developing self-confidence. They tend to focus on building others up rather than helping themselves. For an MTF Trans Woman, things can be even more challenging. Therefore, it is important for MTF Transgender Women to take some time for self-confidence development. Luckily, self-confidence can be mastered via learning, and even if you stumble here and there, you can succeed if you persevere. Here are some tips that will help you bolster your confidence as an MTF Trans Woman.


Relax


The ability to relax can be advantageous when developing self-confidence. First, you must identify the situations that trigger nervousness. Once you know the types of situations that make you feel tense or uncomfortable, you will be in a position to make adjustments so you can relax. For example, if you know you are about to enter a situation that naturally fills you with apprehension, try to think about happy things. The mental distraction allows you to calm yourself and relax.


While mental relaxation is important, you also need to ensure that your body posture is relaxed. You should relax your facial expression when talking to people as well. Once you practice these tricks, you will not only be able to relax but also be able to enjoy yourself even in situations that used to make you tense.


Have a Positive Outlook


Confidence is often a reflection of your mental state. If you are optimistic and have a positive outlook on life, then you are more likely to be confident. To be positive, you must avoid being sensitive and pessimistic. You should try not to take things personally. Some people will try to bring you down simply because they feel bad about themselves, therefore, you also need to surround yourself with positive people. These people will make you feel good about yourself and bring out the best in you.


Focus on Your Strengths


Focusing on your good points is a great way to build self-confidence. In order to focus on your strengths, you must kill negative thoughts. It is especially important to be aware of your self-talk – the way you think about yourself. You should always avoid negative self-talk as it often has a negative impact on confidence.


Groom Yourself and Dress Nicely



Looking good often translates to feeling good. When you have confidence in your appearance, your general self-esteem also increases. On the other hand, nothing kills your confidence more than a messy, dirty appearance. However, dressing nicely does not necessarily mean that you need to wear expensive clothes. All you need are clean, well-fitting clothes that show off your best features.




When a transgender woman finally agrees to a first date, you will definitely be on cloud nine. However, now comes the tricky part: Where do you go on your first outing together? Being prepared for your first date is crucial to its success. The first date should be casual, but not so laid back that it seems unplanned.


Your first date with a transgender woman should give you a chance to chat and get to know each other more. Therefore, you should choose a place with a good atmosphere that gives the two of you a chance to converse freely. If you do not have any ideas for a good first date location, continue reading the following tips to find one.


Finding a Trans Girlfriend Online


This is the simple yet rewarding location for a first date. Choosing a good bar can be a little tricky, so choosing a location with a relaxed or intimate atmosphere is best. An ideal bar for the first date should be dimly lit and relatively quiet. This works well because it creates a good ambiance and actually allows you to hear each other during conversation.


Coffee Date


Meeting for coffee is another great first date idea. If you are on a tight budget, this is ideal because coffee is relatively inexpensive. The simplicity of a coffee date is another positive attribute because, with fewer variables, your date is more likely to end successfully. Given that coffee dates are almost always in the morning or afternoon, it makes things a bit more casual and friendly than an evening date. However, if you want to increase the romance, you can choose a coffee shop with a more intimate vibe.


Dinner At A Restaurant


A dinner date is one of the best ways to add a bit of romance to your first date with a transgender woman. Although this idea sounds like a no-brainer, many people actually get it wrong because they pick the wrong venue. For example, it is highly recommended that you avoid fancy restaurants because your date might expect nothing short of five-star treatment on every date. Keep things relatively casual, to begin with, and save the fancy places for special occasions.


Amusement Park


A day at an amusement park is another perfect first date idea. It provides you and your partner with plenty of time to talk and have fun. When people have fun, they tend to let their guard down. As a result, you will get to know more about your date as a person. Additionally, unlike the other ideas, being at an amusement park offers many opportunities for physical contact with your date.




As an FTM transgender guy,  projecting a male image is crucial. Your presentation matters. Your style of dress matters. The secret to “passing” as male is wearing men’s clothing. This goes beyond simply going to the men’s department in your local shopping center. It is important to choose male clothes that fit your FTM body well, which could be challenging if you have a small body or other considerations. Here are some tips that can help you choose male clothes for your FTM body.


Do the Clothes Fit?


One of the key questions you should ask yourself when shopping for male apparel is whether they fit your body properly. As a rule of thumb, always go for clothes that fit you well. Whether you are just wearing jeans and a t-shirt or something more dressed up, it should be neither too tight nor too baggy. For example, when choosing pants, ensure that it not only has the right cut but also that it sits comfortably at your waistline.


If you have a slightly smaller body, there is no shame in shopping in the boy’s section. All that matters is whether the clothes will fit your frame and body type. Additionally, shopping in the boy’s section comes with a pocket-friendly price tag.


Are You Comfortable?


Fashion is often a personal choice. Therefore, although you want to project a male image, you should always make sure that you are comfortable in whatever you are wearing. Do not wear something uncomfortable just because other guys are wearing it. You should wear clothing that fits you properly and makes you look like the man you want to be.


If you are one of the lucky FTM transgender guys that have small hips, finding male pants that fit you well and are comfortable is plain sailing. However, if you have slightly bigger hips, finding pants that fit you well can be tricky because most male pants don’t have room for larger hips. When looking for pants, ensure that the pants you choose to hug your body while still allowing room for movement.


Do the Clothes Have Any Patterns?


The patterns on the clothing you choose are very important, especially when choosing shirts and t-shirts. This is because they can be used to camouflage any bumps on your chest. For many FTM trans guy, hiding their chest under a shirt can be somewhat tricky. Luckily, patterns can be used to disguise bumps or make them appear less noticeable.


As a final note, never fall for the misconception that baggier clothing will help you hide your chest or your lack of muscles. Despite what most people think, baggy clothing makes you look older and unfashionable. Clothes that fit well complement your figure and show it off to your best advantage.




In this world, there are people who are born female but identify as male. Such people yearn to transition to the gender they have always identified with. If you are a female who identifies with the male gender, understand that you are not alone. Thanks to the advancement of technology, you can physically transition to the male you have always been.


The surgery that will enable you to transform from female to male is known as gender Reassignment Surgery. This surgery alters your physical features to match those of the male gender. It involves two stages: the upper surgery and the bottom surgery. The upper surgery includes a double mastectomy and the reconstruction of the chest. This will get rid of your bust and give you a flat, manly chest. The bottom surgery involves a surgery known as RFF Phalloplasty. This procedure involves the use of skin and veins from the forearm to construct a male phallus. Apart from RFF Phalloplasty, there is another similar procedure called ALT Phalloplasty that uses skin and veins from the thighs to make a male phallus instead.


Transitioning from female to male is a unique journey for each person who chooses to undertake it. You not only have to transition physically but socially as well. Below are some insightful tips that will help you learn how to embrace your journey from female to male.


Accept Yourself


Just because you do not identify with the gender you received at birth does not make you a basket case. It is perfectly normal not to identify with the gender assigned at birth. Many people, unfortunately, are faced with gender dysphoria due to this situation. Therefore, it is essential to accept who you are. In fact, accepting yourself is a vital step in your transitioning process.


Start by Coming Out


The best starting point for your transition is to come out. While this step may be uncomfortable, you need to take it nonetheless. Your family, friends, and loved ones need time to adjust to the news. Even after your physical transformation, it might take time because people were used to the female you. During this step, you will need a strong support system, so finding friends and family members who are accepting of your change should be a priority.


Start Acting/Dressing like a Guy


Social transformation is an important step in your journey toward embracing your masculinity. You can start your social transformation simply by acting and dressing like a guy. You cannot expect people to address you as a “he” when you are dressed in clearly feminine clothes. Remember: the acting will eventually have to stop for you to become the real you, meaning it will eventually become your reality and not an act. There are various websites online where you can read about how to project a manly image.


Seek Professional Help


For your physical transformation, you will need professional help. You should begin by talking to a therapist, who can help you with the emotional problems you may be going through. Next, you should look for a professional doctor who can advise you on the best route to follow for your physical transformation.


Dating can be a tricky business. It’s like taking a chance with somebody and then trying and figuring out if the two of you share a common language. It’s like going for a long boat ride with a complete stranger and then gradually fathom that stranger. Romance, passion, understanding; you will have a lot of such expectations from that stranger. But it takes a while to figure out how it will turn out. However, if you are enamoured by a FTM transgender guy and can’t wait to date him, things can be even more challenging.


While dating a FTM trans guy, you can’t just take anything for granted. And if you have only dated cis guys before, this is definitely new terrain for you. You are nervous, excited, everything. However, if you follow a couple of tips while dating a FTM transgender guy, you are going to be alright. If you are lucky, then maybe not just alright but you are totally going to rock in your new founded quest for love!



FTM Trans Guys are Unique and Different


Now just because you are dating a FTM transgender guy, that does not mean you can assume that all transgender guys are carbon copies of each other. You cannot just read stuff about FTM trans guys from the internet and then uncritically apply it to your man.


It’s not that straightforward. Just like all other guys, they come from different backgrounds. Their race, religion, culture, etc. is bound to influence their personalities and behavioural patterns, pretty much as it happens in the case of everyone else.


So, you have to treat your trans guy as a unique person with a distinct individuality and try and figure him out naturally and organically. However, it is also important to realize that all FTM trans guys have different transitioning periods. His transitioning period has a massive impact on his behaviour and moods. You have to keep that in mind while dating a trans guy.


Having said that, you have to walk that tightrope between understanding his nuances and yet, treating him like a regular guy. You have to understand that your trans guy’s sexual, romantic, social and emotional needs are going to be the same as anyone else. The need for optimal emotional and sexual fulfilment in a relationship, the craving for romance, all these expectations are natural in any relationship. But at the same time, you need to consider that his needs might be different from the cis guys you have dated before.



Be Prepared to Face Labels and Stereotypes About Your Relationship


Now, this can be a bit tricky to handle. But with a bit of maturity and understanding, you can get past this phase. Since you are dating a FTM trans guy, it is quite possible that others will judge your relationship. They might label you as ‘gay’. That’s just the ‘not so favourable’ baggage that comes with dating a trans guy and you have to learn to handle it.


It is natural that you might get terribly angry at people labelling your sexuality just because of your partner’s identity. It will seem cruel and insensitive. But you have to learn to live with it. You cannot change societal perceptions overnight. But with a bit of tolerance, you can totally prevent it from affecting you or your relationship.


You just have to remember that any relationship is an intimate and beautiful bond between the people concerned. As long as you and your trans guy are discovering love, passion and emotional intensity in your relationship, you shouldn’t be bothered by anyone else’s opinion on it.



You Have to be Prepared to Support Your Trans Guy


This can be the most challenging and yet the most beautiful part of your relationship. And it is no different from any other relationship. Everyone has certain issues, some vulnerabilities that need to be addressed. We all are incomplete in ourselves which is precisely why we need a relationship. There are times when we need to constantly hear,’ hey you are wonderful. You are the best.


It is pretty much the same with your FTM trans guy. Transitioning is a challenging business. It takes up a lot of his mental and emotional energy. So, it is natural that it can create abrupt mood swings and emotional issues that only a loving partner can address.


Coming out in the open as a transgender guy can be daunting. There are times when the families of trans guys are outrightly hostile towards them. That is why it is so important for you to support your transgender man.



Make Him Feel Great About His Masculinity


Being a FTM trans guy comes with a lot of in-built expectations. And sometimes, these expectations can take a toll on your trans man’s mental and emotional health. That is why it is so important for you to make him feel great about his body, his sexuality and his masculinity.




The masculine feel is very important for a FTM trans guy. Even after transitioning, he faces the constant pressure to appear masculine and macho in a certain way. Therefore, as a partner, you need to constantly compliment him on his masculine appearance, his clothes, maybe that tough macho look in his eyes, his specific body odour that makes you go haywire.


If his quest for the ultimate manliness is supported and adored by his partner, nothing else can make him happier on earth.



Communicate and Find out What Turns Him On


Communication is paramount to any relationship. And especially when you are dating a transgender guy, it becomes even more important. You cannot just presume things that he will enjoy this or that. Make sure you have a candid conversation about what turns him on, what are his sexual needs.


He might have a certain grey area you should probably avoid while getting intimate with him. But there is no way you are going to figure that out unless you ask. For example, some FTM transgender guys might not enjoy certain sexual contact that is normative for female-bodied folk. You have to understand that transitioning is a tough battle physically and mentally. So, he might even be uncomfortable and nervous about certain aspects of the female anatomy. Again, there is no magic wand that is going to make you realize all of this. The only key is one on one, candid communication with your transgender guy.


And it is ultimately the same as any other relationship. Every partner has some preferences, some things they like while getting intimate, certain things they don’t like. Intimacy cannot be built by racing along a dark alley! You have to take it forward slowly and gently, figuring out your partner’s needs and likes along the way. And all that is going to make intimacy even more beautiful and worthwhile.



Do Not Obsess Over His Trans Identity


This is the most important tip to remember while dating a FTM transgender guy. You know that your partner is transgender and accordingly, there are certain things that you will keep in mind. All that is great. But at the end of the day, you have to treat him the way you would any other cis guy. No one likes being made acutely conscious of their identity again and again. That is rude and disrespectful. So, you have to take your relationship forward in a natural and organic manner. When you are out with him when the two of you are talking or having a great time together, reminding him of his ‘trans’ identity all the time is just not cool. And it’s even irritating for him.


You have to figure out your trans guy’s unique needs very subtly and gently. But that does not mean that the sole defining point of the relationship is that he is ‘trans’. You have to take it forward like any other romantic relationship. Candlelight dinners, evenings in the pub, walk on the moonlit beach, a quiet movie date at his place or your place, all the usual stuff that relationships are made of.



Do not Ask Him Uncomfortable Questions About His Past Life


Transitioning is not easy, as it is. It is like discarding an old life and embracing a new one that you have always wanted. When your trans guy is focusing all his physical and mental energies on being the complete man, the last thing he wants is uncomfortable personal questions that take him back to his past life.


Honesty is certainly a key to any good relationship. But there are certain boundaries. And you cannot breach those boundaries unless and until the other person is willing. Maybe, at some point in time, he will himself open up about his past life. He might himself make you a confidante in his life history. But that is for him to decide. Just because you are dating him, you cannot keep on asking your trans guy uncomfortable questions about his past life.


Just let him be. If he has to share something with you, he will by himself. Take things forward slowly and gently.

 

     

 




One popular quote says - "What prevents people from becoming autonomous, fulfilled, and ultimately happy is their refusal to open themselves to experiences that are new and unfamiliar."


The modern cis dating market is almost a Mad-Max Thunder Dome dystopia. Anyone who has been in the cis dating market for some time finds to his dismay that cis-women in the modern dating market have more issues than Time magazine. It is a ruthless winner-takes-all-situation. Cis-women are hyper-judgmental beings, and men have been reduced to being circus performers who have to constantly entertain the cis-women non-stop or face rejection.


Modern women have a plethora of issues which make them caustic; it can even be argued that modern cis-women would not get any male attention if the almighty love hormones were not at play. Add to that the vast majority of cis-women do not act feminine, care little about their appearance, and do not know how to respond to male affection appropriately.


Enter the Transgender Woman


The first thing that you have to understand is that, despite what the mass media and the society says, transgender woman are women, and in many ways, they are probably the only women around. A trans woman, due to her unique position of being born in the wrong body, understands the needs and desires of men in ways that are impossible for an average cis-woman.


A transgender woman responds to male affection with feminine gratitude, which is rare among your average cis-woman. Cis-women, with their mentality of entitlement, conclude that male affection and attention are their birthrights, and hence treat the men around them like toys to be played with and discarded at will.


Transgender women are also very attractive, and a simple overview of a Transgender Dating Site will prove that the cultural myths about a transsexual woman are just petty lies that have no truth in reality. Trans-women take much better care of their appearance than the slovenly modern cis-woman.


The average man is so disillusioned with the dating market that he can be forgiven for his lack of enthusiasm. In fact, many men have just given up and are no longer interested in finding their soul mate. Men cannot be blamed for what is essentially the caustic nature of cis-women. However, men would be losing out if they allowed their lack of enthusiasm to stop them from trying trans dating. Men have to understand that cis dating has reached its end and transgender dating in the way of the future. It is about time that dating was about love and fun, rather than joyless work as cis dating has become.


It was said by some poet in the past that true love does not change the beloved but rather alters itself for the beloved. With cis-women it is impossible with their checklist of demands. Maybe if you wholeheartedly accept Trans dating then you might get a love that also accepts you unconditionally for who you are and not what you pretend to be.


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