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VIPSociety has now certainly become more open and receptive to the idea of people being different. But a transgender person still faces social stigma and discrimination. People would turn the transgender person into a fetish, treat them like a subject of enquiry and be fascinated by them in a very morbid, inhumane sort of way. But there still are very few people who would consider dating a transgender woman.
If you are one of those unique and courageous men who have decided to step into the intimate world of a transgender woman, it is important for you to know what impresses her and what does not. Just like every cis woman, a transgender woman admires an honest, truthful and chivalrous man. Chivalry never gets out of fashion. But there are certain things about which you have to be extra careful while trying to impress a transgender woman.
There are certain tips you can follow. And if you do manage to ace these tips, the transgender woman you have been admiring from a distance will certainly welcome you into her beautiful and feminine world.
Compliment her Frequently
There isn’t a woman in the universe who doesn’t love a genuine, heartfelt compliment. Just looking at her with eyes full of admiration is not enough. Women like it when men notice the minutest things about them and pay them a compliment. It could be about her hair, her smile, her eyes or even her wit and intelligence.
Even if you are just talking to a transgender woman on a dating site, pay her few compliments every now and then. This would certainly take things forward and build up interest from her side.
A transgender woman is an emotional creature. She is twice as likely to think about a man who compliments her appearance and mannerisms than the guy who just strikes a straightforward conversation.
When you compliment a woman, it is like giving her a signal that you notice everything about her. And that you admire her. A woman needs affirmation from your side before she starts opening up herself. It might sound clichéd but that is how it generally works. When a lady is confident that a man is genuinely interested in her, that’s when she too starts showing interest.
Be Creative with Your Plans
It is certainly not easy to impress a transgender woman. You have been chatting with her for a while on a trans dating site. It’s going good and now, you’d like to ask her out. Before you do so, have it all figured out as to where can you take her, how will you make your first date special and all that.
A transgender woman is independent and confident. She has faced a lot of challenges in her life and therefore, she admires a smart man who can interest and impress her with his dynamic personality and firebrand soul.
So, you can’t take her out just anywhere. Find out in advance what activities she enjoys and then surprise her with a date that involves all those activities. Incorporate something quirky and eccentric into your date. For example, if she is passionate about books, take her to a stunning library before you take her to other places. Or if she loves outdoors, surprise her with a fun date planned on those lines.
She will certainly more than notice the efforts you have taken in getting to know her hobbies and interests and planning a date for her accordingly. Not everyone would do that for a transgender woman, or for any woman for that matter. Most of the guys would just do the stock cafe/bar /pub outing scenario. Only a guy who is genuinely interested in her would do what you are doing.
Do not get Obsessed with her ‘Trans’ Identity
You are dating a transgender woman perhaps for the first time. Maybe, it’s a new experience for you so it’s natural that you have many questions about her life trajectory, her struggles and all that. But you have to save those questions for a later time or better still, not ask them at all.
You have to treat her the way you would treat a cis woman. Her transgender identity doesn’t make her peculiar in any way. You talk to her like you would with a woman and then if you guys do go out on a date, just get to know her as a person. Get to know her likes and dislikes, her views on life, what she likes doing, what are her hobbies.
Your transgender woman should not feel that it is not a date but an interview. It is extremely rude and disrespectful to bombard her with questions related to her identity and transitioning when you guys are out on a date. These things come much later. Suppose you two really get along well and end up in a relationship, then maybe you can ask her some things. But even then, it is entirely her prerogative to entertain your questions or skip those.
You have to understand that just because you are dating a transgender person, that doesn’t entitle you to treat them like an object of enquiry. You are not a journalist out on an assignment interviewing a transgender woman. You are a man falling in love with her, looking forward to being in a relationship with her. So, treat her with utmost respect and dignity.
Punctuality is Important
The first impression is indeed the last impression. Everything seems to be perfect. You have chosen the right place for your first date. You are looking forward to some great moments. But you are, let’s say 20 minutes late for the date.
Maybe, 20 minutes delay is not a big deal by your personal standards. But your transgender woman is punctual and she came on time. Just imagine a woman waiting for you for 20 minutes on a date. What kind of impression it would create? In all probability, she would never want to see you again.
Punctuality is very important when it comes to impressing a transgender woman, or any woman for that matter.
So, learn the value of punctuality. If you have a date planned, reach the venue even 10 minutes before the scheduled time. Just try and imagine an alternative scenario for your 1st date. When your transgender woman arrives at the café and sees you sitting there with a patient and alluring smile, she will be perhaps thinking, ‘this guy is worth it after all’. She will think so because you arrived before time. For her, it is a signal that she is important to you. Just remember, for women, it is these little things that matter.
A Gentleman Never Goes out of Fashion
Women across all times and epochs and ages respect and admire a gentleman. It is no different for a transgender woman. If you want to win her respect, admiration and eventually love, you have to be a thorough gentleman.
You cannot put up a façade of being a gentleman. It’s something that ingrained in your very being and reflects your basic values and thought system. You have to be nice and courteous to her. That goes without saying. But the gentlemanly code of conduct extends to all fellow human beings. You have to be compassionate to everyone around you.
One sure-shot way of figuring out a person’s true character is by observing how they behave with people who are below them on the social ladder. When you take out your transgender woman to a restaurant on a date, she would keenly observe how you communicate with the waiters and the serving staff. If you are not a gentleman, you will manage to put up a façade in front of her. But when it comes to your behaviour with people who are serving you, it will be outright rude and disrespectful. Your mask will fall off and your true character will be revealed.
On the contrary, if you are polite and courteous with people who are serving you at a restaurant and you go out of your way to help out people and make them feel comfortable, your lady will be impressed.
A transgender woman has a heart of gold. And she wants to see the same kind of compassion reflected in her man’s actions.
Then, there are some basic etiquettes of dating like a gentleman that you need to adhere to. If you are going on a date with her for the first time, you should pay the bills. It will be rude of you to expect her to split the bill on the first date itself, especially if you are the one who asked out.
However, on subsequent dates, the two of you can certainly build an arrangement for splitting the bills that suits you and your partner alike.
And finally, remember the good old chivalrous things. Offer to help her with her bags while the two of you are walking. Open the doors for her, draw out that chair for her. It’s not that she cannot carry her own bags or she needs your Favour constantly. It’s just that as a woman, she feels special and loved if her man constantly shows that he cares so much for her.
VIPAttracting a woman is no mean feat. It is literally an art form that requires patience, perseverance and dedication. No matter how good looking you are, a woman isn’t just going to fall head over heels in love with you on the first date. It doesn’t work like that! And when it comes to attracting a transgender woman, you need to work even harder.
A trans woman has often been at the receiving end of societal discrimination and hatred. So, it is but natural that she is extra cautious when it comes to evaluating men. When you begin chatting with her through a transgender dating site, make sure that you take it slow and steady. You have to win her confidence gradually.
In trans girl dating, it is important to follow a certain code of conduct. You need to keep a couple of things in mind while communicating with her and taking things forward. With the right attitude and approach, you can certainly attract a trans woman. This article lists a few tips that would help you impress your date and create the foundation of a beautiful and everlasting relationship.
Pay Her Genuine Compliments
All women love compliments. So, if you want to impress your trans woman, make sure you notice the minutest of things about her and pay her genuine compliments. Even while you chatting with her on a transgender dating site, comment on her positive attributes. Compliments about looks and physical beauty are the obvious ones but she will be even more impressed if you compliment her on her personality traits. It could be anything; her empathy, her communication skills, her confidence or even her general knowledge. If you notice little things about her personality and compliment her on those, she would appreciate that you are taking a genuine interest in her entire being. And that will definitely increase your appeal in her eyes manifold.
But you have to make sure that the compliments are genuine and heartfelt. If you literally bombard her with over the top, generic compliments, she would be able to see through your fakeness. So be attentive to her entire personality. If you are out on a date with her, notice how she is wearing her hair, what her dress is like, if she is wearing any jewellery. Women just love it when their men notice those little details. Compliment her on the way that particular lock of hair falls on her forehead and she would love it.
Be the Good, Old-Fashioned Gentleman
A trans woman is a super sensitive and well-groomed lady who truly values good social etiquette and behaviour. So, when you are out on a date with her, be a thorough gentleman. And it’s not just about how you behave with her. The greatest giveaway of a person’s character is the way he behaves with those socially inferior to him. So, make sure that you act courteous and polite with the staff if you are dating her in a café or a restaurant.
At the end of the day, good old chivalries never go out of fashion. Draw out that chair for her, hold open that door for her and just generally be courteous and make sure she is comfortable when the two of you are out on a date. In trans woman dating, it is these little gestures that matter.
Also, remember to be punctual. Punctuality might sound like an obvious thing but it can literally make or break a relationship. Just imagine meeting a trans woman for the first date and turning up half an hour later! No matter how far you had to travel or what kind of horrendous traffic jams you were stuck in, she is probably just going to walk off in anger. So, turn up 10 minutes before time but never later than the scheduled time.
Be Sensitive About Her Identity
Now, this is the most important factor in trans woman dating. Many trans women are scared of dating cis guys because these guys are only interested in her ‘trans’ identity. They are rude, insensitive and ask her uncomfortable questions about her transitioning. Please do not be that guy if you are looking for a serious, long-term relationship with a transgender woman.
There are some boundaries that you have to observe while dating her. Do not get obsessed with her ‘trans’ identity and make it the sole topic of conversation during your date. Just remember that she is a woman like any other, she is an individual with a unique aura and personality. So, try to connect with that individual. Build a conversation around her hobbies, interests, likes and all that. It’s just like you would talk to any other individual. Don’t exoticize her or put her in a special bracket just because she is a trans woman.
Even if you’ve been dating her for a while, it’s still not cool to ask her probing questions about transitioning or her body parts. If there is something she feels you should know, she would communicate on her own when the right time comes. But do not pester her with insensitive questions surrounding her identity.
A trans woman is super sensitive about her identity. And this is understandable considering the complex emotional and physical journey she has undergone to embrace that identity. She expects her partner to be with her in that journey and support her unconditionally. If you are sensitive about her identity, you would certainly find a solid place in her heart fairly soon.
Impress Her by Planning a Unique Date!
A transgender woman loves it when the guy takes a lead in planning out things. When you are well past the initial phase of communicating with her through a transgender dating site, it’s time to plan out an awesome first date.
Most guys don’t invest too much time or energy in planning out a date. They just seem to think that taking a woman out to any fancy restaurant, bar or café would do the trick. Well, this certainly won’t impress your trans woman. She is a creative individual whose head is buzzing with all sorts of ideas. It is therefore only natural that she expects her man to plan an ‘out of the box’ date.
So, take note of her hobbies and interests. Do some research on what all dates you can plan that incorporate those interests and then fix up something accordingly. If she is passionate about a certain kind of music, make sure you take her out somewhere where there is a live band playing that kind of stuff. That would certainly impress her. Or if she is into art, surprise her by taking her to one of the most happening art exhibitions of the town and then wrap up the date in style with a romantic meal at an artsy café.
Everybody loves a bit of surprise and unpredictability. That’s a natural human trait. And a trans woman has seen so much in life that she knows the importance of valuing somebody who makes a genuine effort to connect with her. So, if you spend time and energy creatively planning out your first date, you might just end up being her knight in shining armour.
Stand Up for Her
This is the most important factor to consider if you really want to win the love and respect of your trans woman. The most important criterion she looks for in a guy is that he should be able to stand up for her. You have to realize that it’s not easy to date a trans woman. When your dating gets serious, your own family might not approve of the relationship. Your friends and relatives might just disrespect her. You have to be prepared to stand firmly by her side in all those kinds of scenarios. You have to be mentally prepared to firmly tell your own family that they cannot disrespect your lady love.
When you are communicating with her on a transgender dating site, it’s just the beginning. Then you start going out on dates with her. When it starts getting intense and serious, that’s when she needs your unconditional mental support. And it’s not just about your friends and family disapproving of her. You have to take up her cause in front of the entire society if the need be. When you are out with her in a public place and someone disrespects her because of her trans identity, you are not supposed to sit quietly. She expects you to stand up for her self-respect and identity and tell off that person.
Looks, charm, physical attractiveness, all these things are surface. What a trans woman is really looking for is a genuine man with a heart of gold. She is looking for a guy who will never let her down, no matter what. So, if you give her ample reason to believe you are that guy, you would certainly be able to attract her and win her love and respect.
