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Finding love and dating at times can be very hard. Currently, people date for various reasons. Either for a serious courtship that will lead to marriage or for companionship to tackle the issue of being isolated and lonely. Other people date for them to fit into a particular class of people. Dating for people is hard at times. It's much tough for people with disabilities. They cry for love, but they face rejection and intimidation due to their inabilities arising from their physical or genetic wellbeing. Trans people also face this particular challenge. They are underrated and, in some areas, taken as signs of bad omen in the family.  One being a trans person doesn't deny him or her the chance to be loved. They have feelings like any other person. They ought to be loved and cherished the same way other people receive it. The underlining factor about love is that love can be painful and cruel. Regardless of their stature, people cry for love. To the other end, love is superb. When you want to get glorious love, you have to give a glorious love because what you give reciprocates to what you get in the end. The same way trans love can be lovely depending on what the involved parties share with the other side. Trans love is a possible thing to happen and grow.

 

In this 21st century, dating has developed due to the development of technology. Social media platforms have taken the root course for dating. They offer a base for people to meet and mingle. It’s easy for people to meet online and start dating. There are many dating sites where trans people can get their soul hearts and their love life. Transgender dating sites are many. Trans people should make use of it to get the love they desire. For one to live a happy life full of love, he/she has to get the right person. To get the person might be hectic and cumbersome. The transgender dating app and trans dating site can help leverage this issue.



Transgender Dating App

 

It’s a trusted app that offers a good platform for trans dating. It has hookups for all categories according to what you want or desire. I strongly recommend it for trans women and men who want to get people whom they wish to have in life. If you are looking for a romantic and serious relationship that will put a smile on your face, then this is the way to go. While on these media accounts, whether on iOS or Android version, you feel free to be yourself and narrate your history but there explaining what you feel comfortable with on the platform. You will be in a position to know each other on the site and build strong relationships there. The transgender dating app is a community of people interested in getting partners who are trans. You will get a transman or woman there. Both of you commit to each other fully. If you have been having issues with getting people who will appreciate you as a transwoman or a transman then, don't hesitate to join the transgender dating app community.

 

 

Transsexual Dating Site

 

It's another platform where the business happens on a serious note. Here you will find serious relationships that will give you the love that you desire. It connects singles who are looking for serious, stable, and long-lasting commitments. It is an open forum for all people trans or not. It has members who are not trans but interested and also in need of dating trans people. You are free to venture into it and feel free to establish strong connections that will enable you to get what you desire. All you need to do is to make a strong profile that you can change later as time goes by.

 

 

Dating Sites for a Transgender Woman

 

There are many dating sites for transgender women available on the web. All you need to do is to be cautious with which dating site you want to use to find love. All these platforms offer almost the same privileges and will enable you to find at least someone almost to the one you were looking for on the trans woman dating site. Of course, it can’t be 100% of what you desire but a good percentage of the person you wished to have. Make a good profile that will sell you out and attract the type of guy you need. Be cautious of con people who may use these platforms to blackmail you. Some transgender dating sites get improvised to reduce the risks of having these effects of blackmailing.

 

The dating sites for transwomen and trans people at a higher percentage will comprise of members who have a feeling or are in love with trans people.

 

Be cautious about how you disclose yourself. Here are some of the precautions you are supposed to keep in mind while searching for your soulmate online.

 

 

Security Measures on a Dating Site

 

The following measures will not guarantee you 100% safety while on a dating site but will give you hints on how to operate safely on a transgender woman dating site. Having a glimpse of it will be of help to you personally.

 

    Unique Dating Site Profile

 

The photos you use on trans dating sites should be unique. Don't use the same profile you use on other social platforms like Instagram and Facebook. You will be an easy target as anyone can easily track your other social media accounts and get to know more about you. You will get exposed to fraud and other threats. Place people in darkness by not allowing them to locate your other social media accounts.

 

    Be Extra Vigilant About Suspicious People

 

As a transgender woman, be alert on any profiles that you suspect. In case you realize one, then report the person to the admins of the dating sites. You can also go ahead and block that individual. Blocking will give you great peace of mind while working online and at night. Connect with people you are comfortable with around you. 

 

    Decline Financial Requests

 

On the trans dating sites, flee from accounts that request financial help. It is a clear indicator that the profile isn't for the aim of finding a soulmate but conning people. Do thorough investigators before you offer any financial support. If it makes sense, then lend out a helping hand. If not, you better stay with your sweat all through.

 

By any chance you get an account that requests for personal financial records as an individual on the transgender dating sites, then you are at liberty to decide on what to do. Decide whether to block him at the dating site and report the number as a scam.

 

 

 

Online Dating Precautions on the First Date

 

 

    Do detailed background research

 

Have a clear view of the person your intent to have on a dating site. Set your goals and conditions that this person has to meet. When you get your soulmate and before you even meet him, have a piece of background information about him. Dating sites for the transgender woman may not give the exact picture of that person. Thorough research will enable you to know him beyond the dating sites and other social media platforms. They make you aware of the kind of person you are meeting on your first date.

 

Research has to be on the exact location the person is requesting you to meet him. Know why that person is insisting on that particular area. Have some history of the restaurant you will sit in. The last precaution in this category is that you must meet in a public place for security reasons. Dating sites for transgender will not guarantee you security on where you meet on your first date. It's upon you to ensure you meet at a place where you will be comfortable and secure. It will save you from being founded by conmen or being subducted.

 

    Make Use of the Google Voice Number

 

Don't be in a hurry to give out your number to strangers. You can meet men or women. Use voice calls and messages offered by google. They will enable you to be private and, in any case, you decide to quit, nobody will disturb your peace of mind. Give out your number after the first date and after doing a thorough investigation on the person who is receiving your number. Give out after you are sure of his intentions on the dating sites and you.

 

Make at least two to three video calls to know the physical appearance of that person. It will enable you to be able to recognize the person on the first date quickly when going on a blind date. Video calls make one reduce the problem of catfishing by a person who is personification to be someone else. Video calls enable one to read the non-verbal cues about someone that will depict his hidden characters. You will be in a position to know the person well.

 

    Use Your Means of Transport

 

Agree on the dating area and time of the meeting. It should be an individual responsibility to avail himself or herself at the venue at the agreed time. Don't accept rides offered by the person you are meeting for the first time. It will be risky since you don't know the person and his intentions for you. Human trafficking and abduction are real.

 

If you have your vehicle, then drive yourself, and if you don't have one, then use the public means. You will be safe.

 

    Don’t Be Too Confidential About the Date

 

Have someone you trust and with whom you can share your secrets. Apart from the two of you who are dating, have a third party who is aware of your date. Third-party people are vital as they will give out your details and the details of the person you are meeting in case of any danger. If possible, you can have a friend accompany you to the date but will give the two of you some space to discuss your issues. Third-persons make it hard for that stranger you are meeting to harm you. Be confidential about your sensitive tips. The stranger shouldn’t know you before the two of you meet.

 

    Develop a Defense Mechanism


Strategize and come up with a viable defense mechanism in case you get attacked on your first date. You may use pepper spray that you can use to defend yourself. You can also have some crude weapons that you can easily access in case your life is in danger. The defense mechanism, weapons should be confidential and, no other person, including the person you have a date with, can access it easily or even spot it fast.

 

    Stay Fresh and Sober


People make a big mistake on their first date. Don't go for the date while you are not sober. Others go for the date and get alcoholic drinks. It could be a big trap that you may not be able to escape. While drunk, you can’t make vivid decisions. You won’t be in a position to defend yourself physically when attacked. Staying sober is a great thing to keep in mind. Be also keen on the drinks and foods served. You may get yourself dragged through them and, you get yourself in trouble.

 

 

Online dating sites are fine when keenly observed. A woman tends to be more vulnerable than men. As a woman on any dating site, there are incidences of physical violence, stalking, and rape on the first date outside the dating site for transgender women. Safety should come first and foremost. The few tips I have shared here will help you in and outside the transgender app and other sites for transgender dating. Have a blast as you search for your special someone through these trans-sexual and transgender dating sites. Remember to be cautious since not all people on the dating site for transgender women may have ill motives. Watch out for your safety.


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Dating is difficult enough in our day and age. We have too many apps to choose from, too little time to read bios, too few chances for genuine personal interaction.


If you’re also trans, it’s like you’re playing the game on another difficulty setting entirely.


Sure, there are transgender dating sites, but even then you have to contend with prejudice and ignorance.


When you register for most apps, the platform provides binary options. You’re either male or female. Times are changing, fortunately, and established apps are starting to copy the many gender options provided by transgender dating apps.


Despite all this, you will inevitably run into users who remain oblivious. It’s like some people don’t even realize they are on a ts dating site. Once, a cis man messaged me and said he’s looking for an MTF transwoman. I had to explain that, as my profile states, I’ve had no surgeries and am nonbinary/genderqueer. His follow-up was even more telling, and immediately showed me that this user and I would not be getting on: “So do you have dinky?”


This is no rare occurrence. If you decide to be active in transgender dating, prepare to deal with your fair share of invasive and even hurtful questions. You would think that people who sign up for a transgender dating app would know where the line is.


Well, experience shows that you would think wrong.


“Are you really a woman?” is just one example. People immediately fixate on your genitals. If you are a post-op transwoman, this might be a source of empowerment. To be able to say, after years of struggle, that “Yes, I have a vagina”, is certainly a great moment for some.


However, not every transwoman chooses bottom surgery, if they even have access to this resource in the first place.


Being constantly reminded that there is a certain standard to meet, that so many people still view genitals as a criterion for whether or not they will date someone, gets tiring very quickly.



How to Cope with the Problems

Well, then how do we cope with these challenges we encounter on transgender dating apps?


For one, we need to remind ourselves that not everyone is as informed about the topic as we are. When in the past I reacted negatively and hurt after an invasive question, it caused confusion. Of course, I have the right to communicate when another person’s actions have caused me harm. Yet at the same time, situations like this offer unique moments to educate others.


I have experimented with various approaches, from cautious to confident. Think about which option appeals to you and fits your temperament. Are you more straight-forward, pun intended? Do you prefer euphemisms, or smaller, sincere steps when breaching the topic of transgender dating?


How you address the subject also depends on the situation. The longer you spend on ts dating sites, the more you learn to read others. The cis man asking about my hypothetical dinky, for instance, struck me as someone who appreciates directness. So I told him in clear terms about my identity. Others ask more cautiously, and I adapt my replies towards them.


Unless, of course, I feel too hurt or offended or uncomfortable to continue any sort of conversation. In this case, make use of the function to block users. It is there for you and your safety. Reporting them might also be an option.


What I have also found helpful is to have a list of resources and links, both in English and other languages you speak on ts dating sites. In that case, when you see the chance to educate someone about transgender dating, or that they are, in fact, on a dating site for transgender women, men, and other folks, but you lack the time and energy to engage… you can simply send a link to the information you want the other person to know.

I doubt that most of the people I sent these to actually bothered to read them. Yet that is not my concern – I can only ensure that I do whatever aligns with my principles and my goals.


Speaking of, a great place to nip many problems in the bud is your profile. If you are on a dating site for transgender women, men and people of other identities, chances are you can highlight certain aspects of your life that pertain to your gender.


Amongst hobbies and interests, consider how your photos and personal details come across to visitors of your profile. How do you pose? How are you dressed?


I found that the more classically feminine I dress, the more surprised people are when I talk to them about my trans* and nonbinary identity. Presenting in a more gender-neutral way and fashion instead draws attention from potential partners whose attitude towards gender roles is less conservative.


Which, yes, is problematic as well. We all want the ability to be ourselves on ts dating sites, that’s why we are looking to find transgender dating apps in the first place. Having to edit our self-expression always carries the risk that we lose ourselves in a performance that conflicts with our genuine selves.



Where to Go From Here

Where does this leave us with regard to the problems in transgender dating?


I, for one, have come to the realization that there is no ‘perfect solution’ to dating as a transgender person. Identity is a dynamic process, so it evolves just as much as the transgender dating apps on offer.


This means we all have to try different approaches, give new apps and ts dating sites a chance, see what people we encounter, and adjust our actions according to our experiences and feelings.


Online dating is never a quick fix, regardless of your gender. As long as we are honest with ourselves and respect our own boundaries and feelings, the problems we encounter along the way won’t deter us from finding love. Accept them, deal with them… and move forward.


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Ever had many things going on at the same time that you can't remember the last time you kissed someone or gone out on a real date. Some of us are so shy to the point where you run off at the slightest chance of having eye contact with someone else. The virtual world has introduced a whole new meaning to dating; with a click of the button, you can find yourself a new beau. There is numerous transsexual dating site that lets you find your perfect match and find love.



Benefits of Using a Transgender Dating App



The enjoyable thing about a transgender dating site is, jokers are weeded out. You sign up and meet people that share your same gender identity. Here are some of the benefits of using a transsexual dating site as a transgender woman;


  Easy to start

We all have those moments where we want to get back to the dating game and eventually find love but want to do it slowly without pressure. It's up to you to create a personal profile stating the things you love and describing who you are. No one will pressure; things will go according to your own pace.


If you happen to meet someone you like but still want to know them better without meeting one on one, the decision is all yours.


  You pick who you want

Online dating puts you in the driver's seat when it comes to initiating new relationships. There is a wide selection of people on transgender dating sites; this lets you choose who you want to date.


  Finding your match

When filling in your details, you get to state the kind of person you are looking for, your attributes, and likes. These dating sites then match you with a compatible partner reducing the inconvenience of you looking for a perfect match.


   Best for shy individuals

Starting a conversation with a new person can be intimidating, especially for someone shy. Add on to the fact that not everyone would want to date a trans. A trans woman's dating site has helped; you don't have to start a conversation with someone who may reject you for your sexuality; by joining the site, they are aware you are trans.


You don't have to pull some weird pick up lines to get someone's attention. These dating apps allow you to go through one's profile to know their interest and hobbies; thus, you know a lot about them when texting the individual.


   Safe

When you chat with someone you like and set up a date, you can look up who this person is through the internet, thus exercising caution.


   Interact with people outside your circle

The trans dating site has registered people globally; hence you can meet with people from all walks of life. Gone are the days where you could meet people through traveling, school, work, or events.


Don't miss out on finding your true love because of your busy schedule; download a new Transgender Dating App For Android or Transgender Dating App For IOS, and personalize your profile; you are a click away from finding love.


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What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the term 'transgender' or 'trans'?  The Trans community is one misunderstood and unfairly treated group in the LGBTQIA community. People around us don't understand we are their parents, children, neighbors, and even doctors. We are a diverse community that represents all races, faith, and ethnic backgrounds. A trans is an individual with a gender identity that differs from the sex they were assigned at birth.


As a minority group finding love hasn't been a walk in the park, it has come with plenty of trials and tribulations. Before computers and the internet became a norm, dating was one on one. You had to go clubbing and attend events to meet someone. This came with a lot of challenges for us trans, such as;


 · Discrimination 

 · Abuse 

 · Acceptance from other sexes and also acceptance from our side. 

 · Stigmatization 

 · Harassment 

 · Legality

   

With the wave and embrace of this computerization period, a click of the button introduces you to a new person. There are various trans dating sites where one can interact with someone across the other side of the globe. One of these dating sites is TransSingle; all you have to do is fill in your details and find your perfect match.


However, even with the surge of these apps, transgender dating still has its challenges, especially in the trans dating site such as;




Harassment


You know how excited one gets when they have downloaded their dating app, you automatically assume the best. You fill in your information, patiently waiting for your match. Then you get messages asking what you have between your legs; some people are even bold enough to tell you their fetishes. All these because your profile describes you as trans.


This is annoying and demeaning for us; picture yourself walking on the street, then someone asks you what you have between your legs? Isn't that demeaning, the same way we feel when we get such messages. It's a challenge since how will you find love when 90% of your inbox is filled with insane weirdos with unpleasable fetishes?


Violence


The majority of the trans community have experienced violence in one way or another. When you download a transgender dating app, the moment you connect with someone out of the app, know your safety is in your court. The virtual world has masked various individuals with different personalities, just like in the real world.


We have instances where violence was meted on us because of stigmatization and discrimination. You may meet a charming individual on a transgender dating site only for them to change on you when you refuse to oblige to their wild fetishes. What people forget is we are humans with normal lives.


Download TransSingle’s Apps, it is transgender dating app for Android or transgender dating app for iOS which ensures you don’t get such experience in and outside the app. Don't let these challenges stop you from finding love; every one of us has a different story, and nothing should stop you from finding your next Ciara or Russell.


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If you are an MTF transgender woman or are in the process of transitioning, looking good is probably high on your list of priorities. In fact, a transgender woman has a reputation for being fashion icons. They push the envelope when it comes to beauty and style. If you are an MTF trans woman and you want to spice up your appearance, one of the best places to start is your face. Your face is the first thing people notice about you, and it plays a major role in how feminine you are perceived. If you want to come across as feminine during a first impression, then you must learn and master the art of applying make-up. Below are some insightful tips that will help you learn to apply makeup appropriately and beautifully.


Research



If you are an MTF trans woman, you have probably made many adjustments during and after the transitioning process. Because you grew up male, there are some things you have to learn now in order to be a woman. Luckily, there is a lot of information available to help you become the female you always dreamed of. To be good at applying make-up, you must be knowledgeable about the ins and outs of it. Researching is a good way to sharpen your knowledge on how to apply make-up. Through researching, you will be able to learn important information, such as what brushes to use, the colors that complement your skin tone, and so much more.


Buy Quality Products


To apply makeup beautifully, you must first have the right tools and products. As mentioned above, you must first make sure that you know which brushes and products are the best. However, you should note that quality products come with a hefty price tag. However, they do not need to cost an arm and a leg either. The key is to invest in some expensive products and choose less expensive options in other areas. Quality brushes are one good set of products to invest in because they offer you more control when you apply your makeup. Quality brushes are also beneficial because they are more durable.


Never Ignore Your Eyebrows


Never make the mistake of leaving your eyebrows ungroomed. However, grooming your eyebrows does not necessarily mean that you pluck them. The point of eyebrows is to frame the face, so cleaning up wayward strands is all that is necessary. You can reshape and tame the rest of them with eyebrow wax.


Plump Lips


it is undeniable that fuller lips are sexier. To have full lips without giving off a intercourse doll vibe, you should line the lips slightly outside the natural line. Next, you should use a lip brush to fill in your lips with your chosen lipstick. Then, powder the lipstick lightly and carefully dust away from the excess. Finally, reapply the lipstick one more time. This ensures that your color will remain vibrant even for a whole night out. If you cannot seem to get the shape you want, visit a professional to learn how to achieve the right look.



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When a transgender woman finally agrees to a first date, you will definitely be on cloud nine. However, now comes the tricky part: Where do you go on your first outing together? Being prepared for your first date is crucial to its success. The first date should be casual, but not so laid back that it seems unplanned.


Your first date with a transgender woman should give you a chance to chat and get to know each other more. Therefore, you should choose a place with a good atmosphere that gives the two of you a chance to converse freely. If you do not have any ideas for a good first date location, continue reading the following tips to find one.


Finding a Trans Girlfriend Online


This is the simple yet rewarding location for a first date. Choosing a good bar can be a little tricky, so choosing a location with a relaxed or intimate atmosphere is best. An ideal bar for the first date should be dimly lit and relatively quiet. This works well because it creates a good ambiance and actually allows you to hear each other during conversation.


Coffee Date


Meeting for coffee is another great first date idea. If you are on a tight budget, this is ideal because coffee is relatively inexpensive. The simplicity of a coffee date is another positive attribute because, with fewer variables, your date is more likely to end successfully. Given that coffee dates are almost always in the morning or afternoon, it makes things a bit more casual and friendly than an evening date. However, if you want to increase the romance, you can choose a coffee shop with a more intimate vibe.


Dinner At A Restaurant


A dinner date is one of the best ways to add a bit of romance to your first date with a transgender woman. Although this idea sounds like a no-brainer, many people actually get it wrong because they pick the wrong venue. For example, it is highly recommended that you avoid fancy restaurants because your date might expect nothing short of five-star treatment on every date. Keep things relatively casual, to begin with, and save the fancy places for special occasions.


Amusement Park


A day at an amusement park is another perfect first date idea. It provides you and your partner with plenty of time to talk and have fun. When people have fun, they tend to let their guard down. As a result, you will get to know more about your date as a person. Additionally, unlike the other ideas, being at an amusement park offers many opportunities for physical contact with your date.


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Gender is a societal construct. It enables people to assign a particular set of characteristics and attributes to a person based on their biological makeup. Many people think gender is biological. But it is simply not. There are people who are born as female biologically but they identify with the male gender. They begin to experience gender dysphoria at some point in time.

Those who experience gender dysphoria get abrupt mood swings; they get anxious for no visible reason at all. Life becomes very difficult for them as they are unable to fathom the source of their unhappiness. They are often diagnosed with mental illnesses and put on medication.

It is only when they realize that the source of all their agony is their biological gender which is different from the gender, they mentally identify with that they start considering some action to live the life they have always wanted to live.

Not all of them take the path of surgery to transition from female to male. Some try to change their look and appearance by dressing and overall behaviour. Irrespective of their biological makeup, they come out as a man in front of society.

But many choose to medically transition from a female to a male. A medical transition increases their chances of passing off as a male in society by multiple times. It also makes them somewhat less vulnerable to societal discrimination and abuse as they develop the outward manifestations of the gender they mentally identify with.

Gender Reassignment Surgery enables this transformation from female to male. There are many components of this surgery. There is the Mastectomy or top surgery that is typically the first surgical procedure performed on somebody who wants to transition from female to male. Many people opt just for Mastectomy and escape other procedures altogether.

Mastectomy helps in getting rid of the unwanted breast tissue and gives your chest that flat, manly appearance. There are a number of techniques involved in this procedure. Depending on your body structure and the results that you are looking at, a combination of these techniques may be utilized.

Then, there is the bottom surgery known as RFF Phalloplasty. In this surgery, the skin and veins from the forearm are used to construct a male phallus. There is another technique known as ALT Phalloplasty that can also be used to create a male penis. This technique utilizes skin and vein from the thighs instead to construct a male phallus.

Then there are other procedures also which a person transitioning from female to male might choose to undertake. There is Facial Masculinization Surgery and there is Body Masculinization Surgery.




Facial Masculinization Surgery has a set of procedures that can be used to give a more manly and chiseled appearance to the face. Body Masculinization Surgery is ideal for those who want to transform their body type to a more masculine type. It is a kind of liposuction technique that reduces a feminine hourglass figure and creates a masculine physique. This procedure can get you quite close to the ideal male figure that includes broad shoulders, trim waist and very less body fat in the lower body.

The medical procedure is just a part of transitioning. Transitioning from female to male is a complex process that has a social and psychological angle to it. You have to totally transform your identity in front of society. And for that, you have to mentally very strong, confident and be proud of your new identity.

There are a couple of tips you can follow in order to make your journey from female to male easier and less hassle-free.



Be Proud of Your Identity

You have to accept yourself before other start accepting you as a man. Societal discrimination and apathy are a part and parcel of transitioning. Do not let that intimidate you. You have to tell yourself that it’s perfectly normal to identity with a gender that is different from the one assigned to you at birth time.

Once you are comfortable with your identity, it’s important to go even a step ahead and celebrate it. Remember that you are unique and different. And it’s the habit of society to criticize everything that is unique and out of the box. But once they realize how valuable that thing is, they get crazy about it. That’s the way society works. So, once you start becoming proud of your identity and begin to revel in it, societal apathy will mean nothing to you.

People who are trying to make you conscious will shut up because you are not getting conscious! Accepting yourself is the first step in your journey of transition from female to male.



Begin Your Transformation by Coming Out

People in your immediate circle need some time to get used to the male you. Your new life as a male might be unexpected for your friends and family, even if they support your decision. So, start by coming out as soon as you can. Take folks who are close to you into confidence. Tell them clearly about your newfound identity and the life you are going to live from now on.

This might be difficult because you might have a family that has issues with your identity. You are probably scared that they will not accept this. Well, you have to learn to be a bit tough here. It’s your life and your choice. You can try and convince your family for sure but you have to be willing to go solo. For someone who has a woman’s body biologically, declaring that from now on, they are going to live and behave like a man in front of their family is not going to immediately get them the understanding they deserve.

Your family might be even hostile to you when you come out in the open. So be prepared for anything. It is very important to have a set of people who genuinely support you and your identity. These people will become a bridge between you and society. They can be your friends, relatives, family members, anyone.

But it’s important to come out in the open with your identity because even after your transformation, your friends and family will take time to get used to the new you. Social acceptance will be a slow process. You have to just keep going on. Do not be disheartened by temporary troubles or roadblocks. As long as you are consistently embracing your new life as a male, it’s all good.



Start Dressing and Behaving Like a Guy

This is a very important component of your transitioning. Even if you are mentally prepared to undergo a transition and have come out in the open, it can be very difficult to discard those old mannerisms you have been so used to.

You feel like a guy. You know it in your heart that you are a man. But if you continue to dress in women’s clothes, people around you would obviously not accept your masculinity. So, it is important to change your outward appearance too.

Begin to dress in men’s clothes. Start observing the behaviour of guys around you. Pay attention to their facial expressions, body language, the way they walk. These little cues will help you learn how to project a masculine image.

The internet too can give you a lot of information on how to incorporate masculinity in your day-to-day behaviour. For buying men’s clothing, check out what other guys on the street are wearing. And then pick clothes that would suit your appearance and build and would highlight your masculinity.

You might feel a bit awkward at first but if you keep at it, you will soon get used to it. And there will come a time when behaving like a man will come naturally to you. It won’t seem like you are acting or trying too hard. You already felt like a man in your heart. But with time, you will automatically start behaving like one externally as well.



Look for Professional Help

Your physical transformation is a very important part of transitioning. Of course, whether you want to undergo a medical transformation or not is totally your call. But if you are constantly anxious about not looking like a man enough physically, then surgery can help you get rid of that confusion.

You should first consult a therapist who would help you figure out the emotional and psychological problems you might be going through. The idea of transitioning from female to male can throw anyone’s mind into chaos and confusion. It’s a difficult state to be in. Your body is craving for an identity that is different from the biological identity assigned to you at birth. All this can get very complicated for your mind. So, a therapist will help you with the emotional and mental aspect of your transitioning.

Then you should look for a reputed and professional doctor who can offer you the best advice on the probable route you should follow for physical transformation from a female to male.

       
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Two-spirit is a gender that is found in only North American who fulfills one of many mixed gender roles found traditionally among many Native Americans and Canadian First Nations indigenous groups. The mixed gender roles encompassed by the term historically included wearing the clothing and performing the work associated with both men and women. This English term emerged in 1990 out of the third annual inter-tribal Native American/First Nations gay/lesbian American conference in Winnipeg. 


A direct translation of the Ojibwe term, Niizh manidoowag, "two-spirited" or "two-spirit" is usually used to indicate a person whose body has a masculine spirit and a feminine spirit. The term can also be used more abstractly, to designate the presence of two contrasting human spirits or two contrasting animal spirits (which, depending on the culture, might be Eagle and Coyote). Will Roscoe writes that male and female berdaches have been "documented in over 130 tribes, in every region of North America, among every type of native culture."The term berdache was coined by western anthropologists and used until the late 20th century, mainly to describe feminine Native Americans assigned male at birth. 


The term is however inaccurate and can nowadays be considered offensive. Non-natives who use this identity are often accused of "appropriating Native culture." The history of two-spirits among Indigenous American culture dates back thousands, of years and has been documented in more than 130 North American tribes. Throughout history, a person who was recognized as two-spirit was someone who identified with both male and female gender roles, and so two-spirit is essentially a third gender recognized in Indigenous cultures. 


The perspective among Indigenous Americans was that having this third gender was a strength their society benefited from. In the Zuni culture, a person's gender was not assigned at birth but was grown into 3 or 4 years of age. Two-spirits were not thought of as just a man or just a woman but as embodying characteristics of both genders in a single person, making them a more whole human being.



This Two-Spirits encourages the belief that, by avoiding the pressures surrounding an individual, they are capable of establishing their own identity. This identity for native Two-Spirit individuals arises from an acceptance of their native cultural values and a rejection of Western values. This rejection specifically applies to Western conventions regarding race and sexual identity as the Two-Spirit person’s identity is maintained by their sexual orientation as both male and female and their commitment to their culture or ethnicity.


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Gender Fluid


Awareness of multiple genders and sexual orientation has recently taken a limelight in the media, however misconceptions and stereotypes still linger because of this. Before we start to dive into this subject matter, it is important to know simple terms such as gender, intercourse, and sexuality. Gender is what people feel within themselves, according to cultural understandings. Such as girls are soft and compassionate, whilst men are less so. intercourse is a biological term which directly refers to the genitals one was born with. Sexuality is whom one is attracted to sexually and emotionally. This may or may not align with their gender.



Gender fluid is an identity that seems to be regularly mistaken. Gender fluid refers to a gender which varies over time. A gender fluid person may at any time identify as male, female, neutrois, or any other non-binary identity, or some combination of identities. It is a gender identity which can be described as a mix of boy and girl. A person who is Gender Fluid may always feel like a mix of the two traditional genders but may feel more boy some days, and more girl other days.  Being Gender Fluid has nothing to do with which set of genitalia one has, nor their sexual orientation. It is solemnly as what they feel like inside, and gender fluid people never seem to stick with a single gender identity.


Many celebrities consider themselves genderfluid, such as Miley Cyrus, Tilda Swinton, DJ Ruby Rose, and Andrej Peji?. Standards for each gender has been ever evolving, from more intense beliefs, to sneaky yet still beliefs.


One of the main misconceptions for people who are gender fluid is that their gender is nonexistent, however, an individual who is gender fluid experiences a constant shift between the gender spectrums. There are some people who fall under the Trans spectrum that do not feel dysphoric about their gender, but it is well known that most do. Gender Dysphoria is a feeling of your physical body not matching up with how you feel internally that it should be. Many people would describe the feeling of dysphoria in many different ways, though all of the ways that it is described make it clear that it is a negative feeling.


Many people who are gender fluid will date bisexual or pansexual people, those who are attracted to two genders or are attracted to people no matter what gender they are. Some people who are gender fluid will use pronouns other than he/him or she/her. Some will use the gender-neutral they/them, or another term that they choose and use regularly. Along with different pronouns, sometimes they will use gender-neutral terms for themselves while dating. Instead of having their significant other calling them their boyfriend/girlfriend, they will term such as “date mate” or even a term as simple as “partner” or “significant other”.


Many people who are gender fluid will often dress and appear as unisex or androgynous, though in some cases they will decide to mix objects that most would place within gender categories. A good example of that would be someone who decides to wear masculine appearing clothing, with makeup or another part of themselves appearing feminine.


It is recommended that when coming across a genderfluid person, that you politely ask what pronouns they would like to be referred as. Some people who experience fluid gender don't use the word "genderfluid" for themselves. Some people with fluid genders call themselves by a word such as genderqueer, bigender, multigender, polygender, or other words. This can be because the people haven't seen the word "genderfluid," or it can be because they don't think it describes them well. It's important to understand that each person has the right to decide what to call their gender identity and that they're the only one who can do that.



Some genderfluid people find that their environment does not influence their gender identity to change. They find that their gender fluidity is unpredictable and happens randomly. Other genderfluid people find that their gender changes depending on the situation, and is influenced by inside or outside sources. For genderfluid people who think their changes in gender might have to do with their menstrual cycle, they think it might be caused by how the natural hormone levels rise and fall during that cycle. It’s possible that a person might think that they tend to feel male during their periods even if that’s only rarely the case for them because the incongruence of that situation would feel noticeable and memorable.


The biggest thing to keep in mind for both sides of a relationship with someone who is gender fluid, whether that relationship is platonic or romantic, is being honest with each other about who you are and what you are looking for. Being open with a significant other can really be better for both people involved than one might think.

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When you discover that you strongly feel that you belong to a different gender than the one assigned to you at the time of your birth, it is a moment of deep thrill and ecstasy. However, it can all be a bit confusing and overwhelming as well. In your heart, you feel quite sure about the new identity that you want to embrace but since society has so vehemently boxed you in a different identity, you feel somewhat nervous and scared. Before a transgender person takes the big step of medical transitioning, there is a lot of physical and mental preparation that they need to undergo.

Even before medical transitioning, a transgender person needs to slowly start coming out and asserting their new gender. If you are transitioning to a trans female, then you have to start putting on women’s clothes and make efforts to learn those little nuances of feminine behaviour and body language. Some transgender people also explore the option of joining a transgender dating site or a trans dating site so that they can look for potential romantic interest.

The most challenging part of course comes after transitioning when you are all ready to come out with your new identity in front of society. Even after medical transitioning, a transgender person is anxious about society judging them. The baggage of their past life is still there. And the general apathy of society towards people of the trans community doesn’t make it any easier.

However, with a bit of preparation and mental strength, you can adjust to your new identity wonderfully and beautifully. You need to chalk out a program for yourself that will help you fully embrace your new identity after transitioning.



You get a Completely new Identity

After medical transitioning, a transgender person gets a completely new identity. As a transsexual person, you get a brand-new identity card with the new name you prefer. The card also includes a new picture of you with your post transitioning features and look. It is perhaps a beautiful feeling to look at your new identity card. When you have to face the world with your new identity, these little badges of affirmation can make your task easier and pleasant. In your heart, you are already proud of being a trans female or a male. But equipped with your new identity card, you will be proud of introducing your new self to the world too.

It’s also good for making people around you understand your new gender in practical terms. The earlier they get to know this, the better it is. This new identity batch also makes you more confident. You no longer feel guilty about your new gender identity or worry about the reactions of people when you tell them so.



Teach Yourself the Fashion and Social Etiquette of your new Gender

If you are a transgender person who has transitioned to a trans woman, it is important to learn all about the basics of feminine dressing. Read fashion magazines on a regular basis, check out what other women on the street are wearing, look for the best stores in your local area to buy female clothing from.

If you have transitioned as a trans male, then you need to learn all that you can about men’s fashion and buy cool, comfortable and chic clothes that suit your body type and accentuate your masculinity.

Post medical transitioning, it’s very important to teach yourself the social etiquette, body language and dressing style of your new gender. You can observe other people around you of the same gender and pay close attention to the details – the way they walk, their body language, everything. You can also join a transgender forum online and interact with others like you who have transitioned. You can also get valuable information from a transgender blog online.

In some places, there are even grooming classes available for transgender people. This is especially true for trans women. There are classes that offer trans women hands-on experience in feminine dressing, body language, makeup, voice training etc.



Participate in Social and Voluntary Activities

After medical transitioning, it is very important to start socializing with people of your new gender. It is true that many individuals still have a somewhat rude and insensitive attitude towards the transgender community. But things are changing fast, there is more awareness now so you will meet many beautiful people out there you can hang out with and perhaps even share your experiences if you wish.

The more you participate in social activities with people of your new gender, the more confident you will become in your new identity. It is a good idea to join an online transgender forum where you can interact with others, talk about your specific experience and listen to some great and inspirational stories about other transgender people overcoming societal discrimination. You can even go through a transgender blog and get to know first-hand how others like you are negotiating the society post transitioning.

One great way of connecting with society is by doing some community work. You can get involved with a social cause and devote a couple of hours every week towards that cause. This is a beautiful way of contributing to society, making a change and also meeting new people. This would also go a long way towards changing societal perception about transgender people. People would no longer stereotype you in a certain way. They would understand that just like everybody, a transgender person has so many different dimensions to their personality. They would start connecting with you as an individual.

One of the biggest challenges that transgender people face after transitioning is difficulty finding work. Many get fired from their jobs and new employers are reluctant to hire them. By involving yourself in your community work, you can contribute towards creating positive awareness about the trans community. And it’s also useful for you in terms of getting full time or part-time employment in the future.



Healthy Eating is Important

Good food and exercise are very important after medical transitioning. You have a great body now that tells the world about your new identity and that you feel proud of. But it is equally important to maintain this body. Regular exercise is a must so that you can strengthen the muscles that you got due to reconstruction and alterations.

It is extremely important to eat healthily. Make sure you eat a balanced diet that has a judicious mix of carbohydrates, proteins, fats, vitamins and minerals. Eat plenty of fruits and greens. But make sure you don’t miss out on carbs and fats completely. Good fats are also very important for maintaining muscle tone and the attractiveness and vitality of your skin, hair nails, etc.

Last but not the least; make it a point to drink at least 8 glasses of water every day. Even more, than would be better! Water is very essential for eliminating toxins from your body. It aids digestion, boosts metabolism and helps you attain that glowing complexion.



Consider Dating Someone

This is the next important step after medical transitioning. Everyone needs some romantic love in their life. Now that you are adjusting to your new identity and feeling good about it, you should maybe consider dating someone.

You can join a transgender dating site or using a trans dating app and get connected with all kinds of people from across the world. Joining a trans dating site is a great way to meet new people as well.  When you are trying to adjust to your new life, it is very important to be as social as possible. Interacting with people from diverse backgrounds would contribute immensely towards enhancing your self-esteem and confidence. You would begin to feel more and more comfortable in your new skin.

The whole process of joining a safe transgender dating site and looking for a partner would make you feel even more intensely connected to your new identity. If you are a trans woman, you would start taking even more interest in your dressing up, makeup, doing your hair, etc. There would be butterflies in your stomach each time you think of chatting with that super-hot guy on a trans dating site. If you are a trans guy, you would start taking even greater care of your body and muscles.

Believe it or not, a bit of romance can do wonders for a person’s self-esteem and self-worth. There is something to look forward to every day. People start taking care of themselves better. They smile more; they even start looking more attractive when the love hormones are at work. They become more positive; their energy levels shoot up. As a transgender person, you have the right to take advantage of all those basic sensations of human attraction. It gets you more intimate with your new identity and that’s a beautiful feeling. After all, love and attraction are an important part of your new identity. So, post-transition, you should definitely consider joining one of the free transgender dating websites and start looking for love!

     

 


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